Is anyone else confused by the newer number of gender identities that have come into existence the last few years?

As someone who is intersex myself being both male and female in my biology. We used to be called hermaphrodites but that was often stigmatizing. But I understood different cultures had terms and roles for say third and fourth genders and I understand and accept transgender maybe even five or six identities with gender in ancient societies where non binary identities were a little more straightforward . Today it’s really confusing because there are terms like genderfluid, agender, gender flux, pangender, etc. and I feel like a lot of these terms describe the same phenomenon. I understand not feeling male or female or like a man or woman. I have heard of two spirit, kathoey, Hijra, etc. but it wasn’t an endless array tens of dozens of gender identities. I find it a bit much nowadays. I understand gender non conformity and gender neutrality and I would like to think I’m more sensitive to these kind of topics but even I get super confused and think what a headache. Granted most people identify as male and female outside of a smaller minority of individuals. And in everyday life most people have never heard of these new genders and will assume your sex and gender based on what you look and sound like. I am not trying to be a douchebag but I have been in situations where I unintentionally misidentified someone and got berated for it and it left a sour taste in my mouth. For me someone who cannot see that their appearance and voice will determine how people identify them are a little unrealistic. It would be as if I got angry at someone for assuming I’m female when I look and sound like a female even though I’m intersexed. Most people will just assume your sex and gender as par for the course. I understand it must be frustrating for those who identify as different from how they were born or how they developed but expecting the world to know automatically without giving people a little grace. With mistakes is very narcissistic. This had happened to me about three or four times now in my life. Most people would guffaw or laugh at this situation but really it is not funny when you’re on the receiving end of verbal abuse because you properly sexed someone or accidentally misgendered them. How do you deal with people like this because truthfully I lost my temper with getting yelled at and told them I wasn’t a mind reader and they could get the hell over it. I snapped because I was getting heated for getting yelled at. I swear dealing with the public sometimes is a fricking nightmare…