What makes a person obsess with what another person does with themselves?

I am just curious what gets another person to obsess over another person when it is a negative obsession. I mean it bothers that individual terribly. Like for instance my being Transgender. I get so many people get to bagging on me, yet not a single one has ever met me. And some will persist for days to weeks to months and even years stalking through the internet just to cry out how terrible it is that I am Transgender. What creates a person like that?

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MarkPaul · 26-30, M

I think you already know the answer. When it comes to having an assigned gender and then trying to circumvent that assignment is a curiosity at a minimum and traumatizing at most. You know this. It doesn't make you a bad person and what you do with your own body is fundamentally your own decision. But, to expect the world to simply embrace you or behave as though nothing [i]curious[/i] or unusual is happening when they see a man's body presented as a woman's (or vice versa) is disingenuous on your part. And, you know that.

Transgender is hard to understand and to pretend it isn't and for you to demand that people simply accept that is the way you are is mysterious to me. More than likely, it took you awhile to accept yourself as you are... as you were born... as you grew into who you are. Yet, you resent the rest of the world for needing to time to understand your "situation." That is hard to understand. You need to stop feeling victimized by other people and trying to victimize others for their reaction to it. Be patient with people and help them understand instead of attempting to trade their victimization of you by victimizing them.

WildeGeist · 56-60, T

@MarkPaul Wow Sir, that is quite a mouthful and a whole lot of response to my little question which was,
" I am just curious what gets another person to obsess over another person when it is a negative obsession. "?
And I apologize for not attending to everyone's responses. My question had nothing to do with any Transgender issues. I only used my being Transgender as an example. Thats okay of course, so the point of Transgender grabbed you.

I do not resent the rest of the world. I am curious what would make you think that strong enough to say that and elaborate a lot on that. And as far as me presenting to be a woman, my little B Cup breasts are hardly noticeable. With a shirt off naked some might just take them for old man moobs. Yeah I love makeup and clothes that mostly actual Women sport commonly and not a whole lot of men do, but clothes and makeup hardly make a Man a Man or a Woman a Woman. A chicken can figure that out. I only use the word Transgender because its a definition clinicians use for some reason? I do not think the whole healthcare industry has put a lot of thought into what the word actually means. Like how do you differentiate a Cross Dresser from a Transgender person? A shit load of Cross Dressers are not sure themselves if they are Transgender or some other part of the Alphabet Soup Gang LBGQT-A-Z-1-10+ and still going infinite ( it ends with everyone livings first Initials of their middle names ).

But anyway back to me and your comments. What would make you assume so much? You mentioned that Transgender-ism is Mysterious. Okay, I can understand another person not understanding something so complex. But everybody is very complex if you get under the hood of each individual. Nobody ever has yet come to fully understand their own selves. The Hindus of India are on record the most serious researchers of themselves since the earliest history known; and only a couple two or three in thousands of years are reported to have SUPPOSEDLY discovered their true selves, and these are now Worshiped as God's by Millions upon Millions solely because they supposedly figured out the secret to whom they really are. So yeah, I can see some mystery in a Transgender too. Maybe even a little more because I am one. I would faint trying to get along in one of them Self Realization clinics Yogi places. Yikes! So I am all in with you on how people are a Mystery. That is beautiful.

Now to ASSIGNED GENDER. Yeah, this I gotta hear. This Assignment. What makes me have to obey this assignment? To Whom has this authority? This I would demand to know. Does he/she have an address? Any Contact information is requested. What could possibly have this power and authority to ASSIGN this " Gender "? And what is a Gender anyway? That is a loaded question too. I have done some so called Gender study and to this very second nobody is sure what Gender is. Millions of Dollars in Grants are awarded to researchers each year by Governments around the globe searching feverishly for the answer to what is a Gender. If you have the answer Sir, you are a rich man! I need $20k by the way, could I borrow it? Think of it as a business investment; it actually would be ;-)

So I am curious as to how you came to assume so much? I would like to know who does this Assignment thing? The Mystery part is self explanatory and I think its cool you are looking into the Mysteries. Its good to exercise the mind, the occult and esoteric. I could never stand doing puzzles, but they are healthy too. Anything to get them brains juices flowing and the sparks sparking is good for the head. I am/was an associate of the United Lodge of Theosophists. Dont judge them due to me. I only mention them because they are hard core into researching the Mysteries from a so called Spiritual perspective. Like exploring religions and their practices and trying to figure out what that spiritual stuff actually is, and go on from there. Pretty cool and endless. Like Self Realization being an endless search so is the Spiritual. One day someone will know the answer to each question of Spiritual and Self. Then again, maybe its you! Maybe its you that knows what is the ultimate Spirit! Then Sir, you would be THEE GOD! Please dont hurt me; I am only human.

Please let me know. I am sincerely curious as to what I ask here. Thank you. Mahalo Nui Loa Ho'Opononopono Aloha Sir. ( heart emoji goes here )

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