Have you ever had severe, extensive abuse in your past ?

To an extent, yes, but I know people have endured way worse than I did even though it was very bad what I went through.

I was in a very abusive relationship when I was young. It was definitely degrading and insidious. For quite a while after I left, I felt like I didn’t deserve anything good in my life because his words of torment stayed with me for a long time.

But time healed much of it plus I think the type of personality I have also helped in my healing. Also, Because it was the only abuse I’ve ever experienced and I was around 19, it was easier to get passed it because I had already experienced a great life prior to that so I knew I could have that again.

Yes..
Not fully, but I have more and more days where I feel better..

Yes ,it lasted for years .I had to adapt to survive, part of me still says i should have fought harder or let it kill me . But the will to survive is strong and the things i had to do to survive will haunt me forever i guess.

Regardless of whose fault it was, and the abuser is going to convince you it's your fault, no one should be treated like this.

If this is you, and while this is not something I was subjected to, I empathize. You need some help to break through the "invisible" shackle, and start to believe in yourself again.

Thank God no. I could not relate nor imagine such suffering. Truly sorry if that was your experience.

Yes and thankfully I’ve healed from it, took a long time. 🕰 I’m in a good place now. 🥰

I did but I don't feel that way. I never became like them and I have a beautiful heart so I see myself as worthy and deserving .
You are too . :)

No I have not. And my heart goes out to anyone that has. ❤❤

Not too much.

But I was a socially awkward, intellectually gifted, nerdy kid, so peers picked on me a bit for that.

On the flip side, being nerdy and gifted gave me some pride. Once in history class we played a game with teams answering questions. My teammates quickly learned I knew my stuff, and deferred to me. Eventually the class caught on, and the class clown said, "How about everyone vs. Chris? [me]" At first I felt bad, but later felt pride, and it stuck with me.

And my skills opened doors and earned me money and now I secretly laugh at all those who pick on nerds, yet later in life end up poor or in jobs they hate where they do not have to think. And then they ask me for money. Nope. Being nerdy paid off, LOL!

So sorry you suffered and keep suffering. May the kindness of others be returned, since you are so kind.

I haven't, and so thankful for it. My heart aches for anyone that has and my rage comes alive when it's a child. Ugh. 🤗

Yes. I haven't surpassed those notions. I have good days and bad. My dogs have been a big help.

I've not been treated that way but there's a young girl on here I've been talking to and some of the things she tells me are absolutely terrible. I'm fully aware that she could be a catfish, but at the same time, I'm wondering who broke this person down so badly? And WHY?.....

Yes, more than once. I don't relive it though. You MUST LOOK beyond it!

Today IS today! Tomorrow IS tomorrow! One step forward at a time! Don't ever look back!

Repetition only makes it worse when you look back.

What do they say when crossing a very high bridge?

DON'T LOOK DOWN!

You just don't do it. You cross it looking forward only.

Yes, my Ex-wife was abusive!

I can't personally relate, but I am a victim of narc abuse(girlfriend) and I can be here for you. They won't defeat you.

Yes that's why I'm such an SOB. or would like to be.