So last month

I told my son and his girlfriend that I wanted my house back and March was the date to be moved out.

My son panicked and we worked out a deal. He is either enrolled and going to school full time or working in a career directed job. Otherwise, he is paying $300 a month. If he starts and quits, it's $300 a month. He is almost 30 and working as a pizza delivery driver. He has all these goals he wants to reach, but ends up spending his time smoking weed and playing video games. He really needs to take control of his future.

But his girlfriend needs to move. I want my spaces back. I don't believe she is still together with my son. They rarely do things together anymore and my son was more than happy to have her move out. I think once she is out, that relationship will be over.

I am excited thinking about how I can have all my kitchen cabinets and drawers back. How I can have my craft room back. How I can enjoy the rest of my house again.

I can even move my altar into another part of the house and get my bedroom back in order.

I hate putting my foot down, but I am much happier with my decision.

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smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

How do you expect him to make at least $2000 a month for rent working at pizza Hut

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@smileylovesgaming I don't. He wants to become a paralegal. He needs to get some education. But in the end, the choice is up to him.

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

@FoxyGoddess even if he wanted to go to college it is to late now. He wouldn't start college till next year in August or September

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@smileylovesgaming Well, I'm sure he'll figure it out.

I get that you are in your mid 30's. I hope you have a career and aren't living off your parents, but the excuses you are giving me make me think you are.

He's been living with me since 2018. He has had 8 years to figure things out for free. It's time he start actually doing things to improve his life than to keep sitting doing the bare minimum.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@FoxyGoddess we have friends whose "artist" son in his late 40s still lives in his parents' apartment, travels with them, etc. It is so sad.

smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F

@samueltyler2 well u can't really make a career out of doing art. My cousin he use to sing opera he was actually pretty good. But he learned it doesn't really pay the bills

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@smileylovesgaming sure, my sine had his ears pinned back in music when he went from first seat sax to the back of the line at UW. He now runs his own insurance business.

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@smileylovesgaming Tell that to everyone who makes music, ads, movies, tv shows, CGI, magazines, books, websites, city designs, architecture,...

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@FoxyGoddess I think it has gotten a little bit better, but so few really make the big time.

I used to attend open drawing studios, many of the models were dancers or musicians who supplemented their incomes by posing.

FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

@samueltyler2 Yeah, being in the artist trade often means lots of different gigs, but it isn't impossible to make money.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

@FoxyGoddess our friend's kid just doesn't push hisvart properly. He does work as a DJ and bartender but pays no rent to his folks.