why, when i make it perfectly clear from the first time
that it is the ONLY time i will loan someone money, do they keeeeep aaaasssskinggggg
41-45, F
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Jayciedubb · 56-60, M
Ive been thinking about this issue a little bit and i may have been too harsh in my first reply. ..it still applies but i shouldn't have compared them to dogs. In doing so, i really shed a bad light on the whole dog population. .. 😒🙄🤨..
Ok. That was a joke that materialized as i was writing. But seriously. You should look at it, not from your perspective as someone who's fiscally responsible with a surplus of money at your fingertips. ..who will likely recover from such a loss, should it come to that. Instead, try to see it from the perspective of somebody who's not responsible nor has the ability to generate enough money to be able to cover their bills and have enough left over to save.
In other words, don't take it personal. They might not be doing it on purpose at . it's just that you take their problem more seriously than they do. You probably put yourself in their shoes when it comes time to asking for your money back and you feel bad about it , knowing their situation compared to yours. And they may very well be relying on that when it comes time to not paying you back. they probably feel bad also but they're powerless to do anything about it so they're just letting it play out the way it's going to play out.
Either way, stay strong and don't lend them any more money. And you might have to take an L on the money you've already lent them. But like I said in my first reply, just consider it the amount of money it cost to get them out of your life. And try to surround yourself with people who are in the same pay grade as you.
I had a squad leader when I was a private in the army who was always behind in his bills. He got me for about 80 bucks I think overall. So I learned this lesson pretty cheap I guess considering. But he started by borrowing $20 from me and repay me with a bouncing check. Then I have to pay the fee on that. Then next payday comes around and he needs another 20.. it didn't take long before I realized that, unless he got a second job lol, he was never going to be able to afford to pay me back since he was already in the hole to begin with. It's like his money bucket as a hole in it in the bottom that's bigger than the hole in the top to fill it through.
A good way to end a friendship is by lending or borrowing money. That should always be done to a financial institution. Or it should just be given as a gift, with no strings attached. There are situations where you still end up getting burned on that deal also. It sucks when you can't enjoy a good deed. But as they say, no good deed goes unpunished
Sorry for going all Leo Tolstoy on your post here
Ok. That was a joke that materialized as i was writing. But seriously. You should look at it, not from your perspective as someone who's fiscally responsible with a surplus of money at your fingertips. ..who will likely recover from such a loss, should it come to that. Instead, try to see it from the perspective of somebody who's not responsible nor has the ability to generate enough money to be able to cover their bills and have enough left over to save.
In other words, don't take it personal. They might not be doing it on purpose at . it's just that you take their problem more seriously than they do. You probably put yourself in their shoes when it comes time to asking for your money back and you feel bad about it , knowing their situation compared to yours. And they may very well be relying on that when it comes time to not paying you back. they probably feel bad also but they're powerless to do anything about it so they're just letting it play out the way it's going to play out.
Either way, stay strong and don't lend them any more money. And you might have to take an L on the money you've already lent them. But like I said in my first reply, just consider it the amount of money it cost to get them out of your life. And try to surround yourself with people who are in the same pay grade as you.
I had a squad leader when I was a private in the army who was always behind in his bills. He got me for about 80 bucks I think overall. So I learned this lesson pretty cheap I guess considering. But he started by borrowing $20 from me and repay me with a bouncing check. Then I have to pay the fee on that. Then next payday comes around and he needs another 20.. it didn't take long before I realized that, unless he got a second job lol, he was never going to be able to afford to pay me back since he was already in the hole to begin with. It's like his money bucket as a hole in it in the bottom that's bigger than the hole in the top to fill it through.
A good way to end a friendship is by lending or borrowing money. That should always be done to a financial institution. Or it should just be given as a gift, with no strings attached. There are situations where you still end up getting burned on that deal also. It sucks when you can't enjoy a good deed. But as they say, no good deed goes unpunished
Sorry for going all Leo Tolstoy on your post here