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Don't you think my doctor was too harsh with me about my weight?

Today I went to my doctor. I have a very strict doctor and she got on me about my weight. She saw my weight. She gave me a serious look. Now big girls are in nowadays. I am average. My doctor gave me a brutal talk. She said, "Why haven't you been doing your workouts? I can tell you haven't been workout out."
I said, "I have been working out but-"
Then she cut me off and said, "No you haven't! On our last visit which was 6 months ago, we talked about you working out, eating right and laying off the junk food which you failed to do. You're fat. You need to lose weight."
I was shocked she said that to me, "I say I'm average. My aunt says I am very lazy and only stuffing myself with junk. I've been busy and working and-"
Then she shot back at me, "That's because everyone is is fat! Cut the excuses! You are on the borderline of diabetes damn it! You're weight gain is out of control. You're being lazy and inconsiderate of yourself and you dont care. You don't care about your own body at all. Your aunt is right."
That hurt me. My aunt said the same thing about how careless I am about my body. I stormed out of the office in years! I'm not fat! I've been busy.
I am 5'9 and 280lbs. I was 250lbs last time. I did lose weight but I stopped. Diabetes runs on my dad's side big time.

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xRedx · M

I'm sorry but your BMI would suggest you're obese. Perhaps she was straightforward but truthful. If you truly want to be healthy, cut the excuses and get to work.

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PoppyLoveLala · F

@xRedx 😭😭😭

xRedx · M

@PoppyLoveLala I'm sorry but it's the truth. If you wanna get back on track you know what to do.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@xRedx Why is everyone trying to hurt me. Even my best friend called me out bluntly for lying and bring a lazy fat slob that doesn't care about her own body. How rude. She said to not argue with her and don't drag my mom into this and I'm a grown woman and stop running to mommy for everything.

TexChik · F

Oh please ... stop it ! You gained 30 pounds in 6 mo , and weigh 280 pounds . That’s morbidly obese! You have denial down pat ! Diabetes will wreck you and shorten your life . Find a nutritionist that does keto , and get busy and follow the damn diet . You’ll lose weight ... then you can exercise when you are a bit lighter . It’s no joke . Your Dr. is right

PoppyLoveLala · F

@TexChik 😦😦😦
You dont need to me rude about it

reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M

sorry but that's what a doctor, and also anyone who cares, should say. this self-serving trend of people telling overweight people they are fine the way they are is not helping anyone but themselves. sure people will love me so much if I go around telling overweight people that they look great but then they will die younger and have a less happy life, real love is telling someone the truth even if they will hate you for it, that is true selfless love. and you're so young its still time to turn your life around. call that doctor and say " thank you, you're right, tell me what to do" and then do everything she says.

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reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M

@PoppyLoveLala seriously, I think people around you are seeing you get worst, seeing that being soft with you didn't help so now they are being harder. stop focussing on how hard they were on you and realise that they care enough to put the effort. this is a wake up call, and as I said, you should be thankful. let me give you an example from my own life. many years ago I was super depressed and feeling sorry for myself. many friends and family gave me hugs, said they love me, told me to see a doctor etc. one friend came to me said "you have two choices, kill yourself and make a man of yourself and get the F... back on your feet cause right now you're just being a whiny bitch". at first I thought he had been so mean to me but then I realised he was right and I stood up, faced my problems like a man and never let myself be that weak again. all those hugs and "its gonna be ok" just made me stay weak and that one kick in the ass saved my life.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@reflectingmonkey Wow your friend was rude. He should have apologized! 💔💔😠😠😠😤😤😤😤

reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M

@PoppyLoveLala hmmm, hahaha, now I think I've been fooled and you're just a troll. good show, you got me there for a while. 👍️

WarmSofter · 31-35, M

I'm your height. I'm more than a hundred pounds lighter than you and even I'm feeling that I'm out of shape and that my belly is too big. I think you need to work out if you want to lose weight. The doctor's giving you tough love for your own health benefit.

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PoppyLoveLala · F

@HerKing She never said I was fat. She said I'm so big and I don't care about myself and I only want to eat what I want to eat and just put it in my mouth rather than eating healthy foods. She knows I argue with people and she keeps cutting me off. She said, "If you wanna live being obese all your life, being careless and lazy for the rest of your life, fine! But it will be YOUR fault and you're just being a whiny selfish brat! You're being a coward for quiting!"
HOW RUDE

HerKing · 61-69, M

@PoppyLoveLala She didn't say it the way you're misquoting...And we both know she didn't. But the thrust of what she said (if she did say this) is true. It will be your fault and you will die an early death. If you think it's rude she's pointing out your self destruction, fine, now run along and grow the fuck up.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@HerKing What is wrong with everyone? Everyone thinks I'm being selfish and rude. You guys are the ones that are rude. I wish my aunt didn't open her mouth so much. She speaks her mind too much.

SW-User

Three years ago when I got a fright on the weight scales I went on a strict diet regime. I still diet for my health mostly. Considering all my allergies and efforts I can honestly say I'm not going back any time soon especially because like I said - health reasons and that's not something to play with.

Your doc isn't someone I'd try to put up with. Id rather seek a second opinion and try to put effort into changing your lifestyle slowly because of health reasons more than any other reason. Start slowly eventually your body adapts but you have to be willing mentally and ideally have the right support.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@SW-User Okay. At least someone understands me. My doctor was so rude and called me fat

SW-User

@PoppyLoveLala Your doctor did it "in your best interests" like I said I won't put up with that kind of attitude however that being said you need a second opinion and professional advice with support and the mental desire to get there. Experience speaking.

Being obese and stuffing yourself is an addiction. Mostly an addiction your body gets used to like a drug. Most obese people say "nah it can get worse" but why does it HAVE to get worse?

Now you've been told you're borderline for diabetes isn't that enough reason to incentivate you? For me my own health reasons incentivate me well enough.

Effloresce · 26-30, F

Yo either way your doctor is right so either just ignore her or start exercising more if your health worries you

Quizzical · 46-50, M

I hate to say this, but I'm 5'9" and weigh 246lbs, and I am certainly overweight for a guy and need to lose a lot as it's affecting my health

So I really do think you need to pay attention to your doctor.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@Quizzical She called me fat! I can't believe her!! She got into my face and said that harsh stuff to me.

Quizzical · 46-50, M

@PoppyLoveLala Well, I'm afraid you can't be 5'9" and 250lbs 'without' being fat unless you are made of lead... And I speak as one in exactly the same position.

Yes, it's a harsh way of putting it. But sometimes the truth is painful however you hear it.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@Quizzical 😦

SW-User

if you don't want to take care of yourself, deal with the consequences.

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PoppyLoveLala · F

@SW-User No I'm not! Im average.

SW-User

@PoppyLoveLala no. you're obese.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@SW-User 😭😭

HoraceGreenley · 56-60, M

Your doctor was right.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@HoraceGreenley 😠

deadgerbil · 26-30

At 5'9 and weighing 280 lbs, you need to figure out your situation

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deadgerbil · 26-30

@PoppyLoveLala You keep taking offense at what she said...

turn that into something positive and prove her wrong by working hard and dropping the weight.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@deadgerbil How can I? She made me cry today?

deadgerbil · 26-30

@PoppyLoveLala are you just going to stew in what she said and feel sorry for yourself or are you going to actually do something for your health?

SW-User

Cut the garbage! Listen to your doctor and just do it! Quit making excuses. You're obese and if you don't care enough to take care of your body, then it will be your fault. Listen to your damn doctor.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@SW-User I'm not making excuses!!! Why are you taking the doctor's side?!

SW-User

@PoppyLoveLala Im not taking your doctor's side. She and your aunt are right. If you actually care about yourself, you would listen to them and lose the weight. Stop with the fucking excuses. Diabetes is not a joke and it can kill you. Do you wanna live with diabetes for the rest of your life. Stop taking that as a joke and do something about that. Quit lying to yourself. People that care about you would tell you the truth, even when it hurts.

HerKing · 61-69, M

That's a great story but we both know highly embellished to the actual discourse.

Oh and yes, you are obese.

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PoppyLoveLala · F

@HerKing Are you siding with my doctor and aunt? Even my dad got on me for it and didn't give me a hug and said "it's going to be okay"
He said, "You need to lose weight. I hate to say this but you're fat. Your doctor is right and you better listen to her. You can die of diabetes and you're too stubborn to realize it. You are obese. For got sakes, stop arguing with people, take the criticism and LOSE THE FUCKING WEIGHT! You're being hateful towards yourself."

HerKing · 61-69, M

@PoppyLoveLala You're trolling now...bye.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@HerKing Fine!!!! Be rude then!!! I thought people were nice!!!

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

You get to decide.
You get to choose.
280# is not average, you are definitely overweight and putting your health at risk.
I hope you choose to lose weight and get healthy

SW-User

if this really did happen, then she's right but the way she said it was unprofessional

PoppyLoveLala · F

@SW-User I know. She was so rude. No doctor should call their patients fat. Rude

midnightsun · 26-30, M

I'm siding with the doc

PoppyLoveLala · F

@midnightsun Why?! She was mean

midnightsun · 26-30, M

@PoppyLoveLala you're too fat she just wanna help you that's all

PoppyLoveLala · F

@midnightsun She didn't have to be so blunt

xixgun · M

I’m 5’5” and 210.

PoppyLoveLala · F

@xixgun and?

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