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Don't you think my doctor was too harsh with me about my weight?

Today I went to my doctor. I have a very strict doctor and she got on me about my weight. She saw my weight. She gave me a serious look. Now big girls are in nowadays. I am average. My doctor gave me a brutal talk. She said, "Why haven't you been doing your workouts? I can tell you haven't been workout out."
I said, "I have been working out but-"
Then she cut me off and said, "No you haven't! On our last visit which was 6 months ago, we talked about you working out, eating right and laying off the junk food which you failed to do. You're fat. You need to lose weight."
I was shocked she said that to me, "I say I'm average. My aunt says I am very lazy and only stuffing myself with junk. I've been busy and working and-"
Then she shot back at me, "That's because everyone is is fat! Cut the excuses! You are on the borderline of diabetes damn it! You're weight gain is out of control. You're being lazy and inconsiderate of yourself and you dont care. You don't care about your own body at all. Your aunt is right."
That hurt me. My aunt said the same thing about how careless I am about my body. I stormed out of the office in years! I'm not fat! I've been busy.
I am 5'9 and 280lbs. I was 250lbs last time. I did lose weight but I stopped. Diabetes runs on my dad's side big time.
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reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
sorry but that's what a doctor, and also anyone who cares, should say. this self-serving trend of people telling overweight people they are fine the way they are is not helping anyone but themselves. sure people will love me so much if I go around telling overweight people that they look great but then they will die younger and have a less happy life, real love is telling someone the truth even if they will hate you for it, that is true selfless love. and you're so young its still time to turn your life around. call that doctor and say " thank you, you're right, tell me what to do" and then do everything she says.
@reflectingmonkey My doctor didn't have to so brutal. My aunt brutally said I dont give a shit about myself and my body and I'm too lazy to workout and the only thing I care about is what I put in my mouth and get bigger and bigger I'm being lazy about trying new healthy recipes. She said that if I dont care than she doesn't care either. She says I'm being a coward for giving up.
I cried my eyes out. She just stood there and didn't even comfort. She let me suffer. She said it right in front of my cousins. I wish she shut her mouth. She speaks her mind too much. Mu aunt really hurt my feelings. She said, "Well its the truth. I don't care about your feelings right now. You don't care so why should I care?" I haven't spoken to her since last week. She doesn't seem to regret it.
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@PoppyLoveLala seriously, I think people around you are seeing you get worst, seeing that being soft with you didn't help so now they are being harder. stop focussing on how hard they were on you and realise that they care enough to put the effort. this is a wake up call, and as I said, you should be thankful. let me give you an example from my own life. many years ago I was super depressed and feeling sorry for myself. many friends and family gave me hugs, said they love me, told me to see a doctor etc. one friend came to me said "you have two choices, kill yourself and make a man of yourself and get the F... back on your feet cause right now you're just being a whiny bitch". at first I thought he had been so mean to me but then I realised he was right and I stood up, faced my problems like a man and never let myself be that weak again. all those hugs and "its gonna be ok" just made me stay weak and that one kick in the ass saved my life.
@reflectingmonkey Wow your friend was rude. He should have apologized! 💔💔😠😠😠😤😤😤😤
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
@PoppyLoveLala hmmm, hahaha, now I think I've been fooled and you're just a troll. good show, you got me there for a while. 👍️