So, I'm thinking of asking if my elder wants to move in with me...

I saw her today. We watched some live music and she cried. Poor sweet thing. She doesn't want to be in a nursing home. It's a crazy idea, but I don't care. I don't care if it's hard. This is what we're meant to do. She shouldn't ever be alone.

I am scared, but I want to do this.

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Gusman · 61-69, M

That is such a beautiful gesture.
If you can manage it then I think it would be positive for both of you.
I'm sure you understand the pros and cons. Ambulance on speed dial, just in case.
Your elder has no family? No one visits her?

ScreamingFox · 41-45, F

@Gusman she has a big family actually and they do visit her, but never mentioned her staying with any of them. I know it's hard. I lost my parents and they're losing her, it can be overwhelming. So I think that's where I can step in. And I don't live far from them at all, so I would have to open up my home. Which will be the hardest part for me.

She doesn't have much time left though, that's why I don't consider it a huge weight. She just needs somewhere to feel home.

Gusman · 61-69, M

@ScreamingFox Approach the family and put the proposition to them.
Having the family on side will make this easier.
Very good idea so give it a go.
If it does not work, you at least gave it a try.
Your elder might find some joy and happiness through your kindness.