Is 14 years too big of an age gap? It wasn't until yesterday that I realized how big our age...

What matters is how you feel about each other, how you communicate and your commitment to make this work.

I had dated people who were 8-12 years older than me. Age was never an issue.

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GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

My parents were 16 years apart in age, and celebrated 55 years together

GJOFJ3 · 61-69, M

If it didn’t matter before it shouldn’t matter now. Enjoy what you have together.

Pinkstarburst · 51-55, F

Do ya'll love each other? If you do then who the fuck cares.

exexec · 61-69, C

My brother-in-law married someone 18 years younger, and it worked fine.

DunningKruger · 61-69, M

No. As long as you're both consenting adults, age doesn't matter.

Viper · M

It can be, as when he retires, you might have 15 years of work left...

What I see in age gap problems is when people are in different stages of life.

SW-User

I think that the lower age matters the most. If you were underage it would be clearly wrong. If you were 18 and him 32 then it might raise eyebrows. If you're a fully fledged long term adult of 30, for example, then nobody really gives a shit.

CountScrofula · 41-45, M

Eh so long as you aren't a teen it's not a huge deal you're a grown-up

Lilred2289 · 31-35, F

Not at all. I think men and women can find love at different ages.

Jinxie · 51-55, F

My husband is 12 years older. It works for us.

Amylynne · 26-30, F

why is that umber important?

Ingwe · F

Yes for me it would be

caccoon · 36-40

I think it all depends how you feel about it, and whether it creates distance between you, or it's hard to find commonality.

The thing I worry about most when dating older is that perhaps they have purposely sought out a younger person because they think we're naïve

Justenjoyit · 61-69, M

If everyone is happy about it then no

TheLordOfHell · 41-45

If you're ok with it, then it's none of anyone's business

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

Nah it’s fine

empanadas · 31-35, M

I mean you 114. Regardless, dudes around your age gotta take Viagra