Did you always want to have children? I tried to ignore it, and push it down but at the...

Your mother just seems to be a selfish or an unthinking person.

We can't choose our mothers. We are stuck with them till they pass from this earth, but unfortunately, the damage they can do to us without even thinking it is damaging is unbelievable.

I've given this a lot of thought, because of the way my own mother treated me, and I can say very honestly that I am a better, stronger person than I would have been otherwise. Those of us who are hurt in life are often more caring, and more empathetic than those who skate through life joyfully.

Personally, I think you are amazing, and your mother's selfishness might have been part of the fire that molded you in the crucible and furnace of your childhood.

SweetMae · 70-79, F

I am so sorry that happened to you. You didn't deserve that.

Threepio

That is just hurtful.....

To answer your question.....
NO, I never consciously wanted to have kids. But, I really had no control over that..... I was in my early-mid thirties when one morning it was announced that I was going to be a dad. So I stumbled through what I assumed I was supposed to do and managed it well (I think). If I had to do it over again, I would have spent more time with my kids vice focusing on the career I had at the time.... (I still have the kids...that career is long gone and I have moved on a couple of times).

eyeno · M

Your future is solely held in your hands. When your day comes step up to the plate.

Being a single custodial parent which raised my son from 18 mo. thru 18yrs. old.

One day we struck up a conversation on what his life's goal was. And the goal is as I told him, is to be better than your parents (me).

What you didnt like about your parents, don't teach your children as that is what I did to him by leaving out all the bad things I thought my parents did to me.
In this way your families heritage is always progressing to a better place.

He proved it to me by getting his Masters degree with no help from me and became very loving, caring and self-sufficient.

exchrist · 31-35

I can only assume u are a magnificence ppl can't handle u do it the "modern" way. It is 2022 and such strength scares them off. Ur a single mother right. Taking on both gender roles scares alot of ppl too.
You will always have my heart though. Stay mellow girl!

Montanaman · M

My heart beats, not breaks for you. Because you'll get a handle on things. You're a beautiful, intelligent, worthwhile young lady. Your mother will come to regret her actions and words. But you'll persevere. You're wanted and desired, ya just don't know it yet. I know these things. 🤗🤗🥰😇

exchrist · 31-35

I did then swore off the idea and still don't but am willing and it's a moot point given the number of ppl that have taken my sample as a donor.

MellyMel22 · F

That must’ve been hard. Maybe she was just speaking of long before having you. I know a few people who said they never wanted children and did and changed. She had you, so she must’ve wanted you ❤️

Ingwe · F

Never thought about it but then came an urge

TheotherAndy · 41-45, M

I have had a sort of similar experience too

Fukfacewillie · 56-60, M

Nope.