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Did you always want to have children?

I tried to ignore it, and push it down but at the restaurant my mum and God mother were having a seperate conversation as I spoke to my uncle.
Anyways she proceeded to tell her that she never wanted to have children...
I heard it and tried to keep my focus on what I was saying but my uncle seemed to notice what she was saying too, only to stop and focus on what was happening briefly.

My God mother was kind enough to remind my mum that I was a blessing and one that's grown up into something wonderful.

But my mums focus was and has always primarily been on my father.
And the moment she speaks of him, the truth comes out.

I said I wouldn't do this, but with everything that's been happening lately with these guys, it's just reminded me how insignificant I feel...
Why doesn't anyone seem to want me...

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4meAndyou · F

Your mother just seems to be a selfish or an unthinking person.

We can't choose our mothers. We are stuck with them till they pass from this earth, but unfortunately, the damage they can do to us without even thinking it is damaging is unbelievable.

I've given this a lot of thought, because of the way my own mother treated me, and I can say very honestly that I am a better, stronger person than I would have been otherwise. Those of us who are hurt in life are often more caring, and more empathetic than those who skate through life joyfully.

Personally, I think you are amazing, and your mother's selfishness might have been part of the fire that molded you in the crucible and furnace of your childhood.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@4meAndyou
You always have such wonderful things to say to me...
And I have to say the same is said for you too.
I have watched your responses here and they always come from a place of wisdom and real care.
It's a shame that our start wasn't the best.

I can see that my mum is not coping very well each passing day since my father passed. But she was always "struggling"...
The menopause and other things I think are adding to her meanness.

4meAndyou · F

@Mellowgirl Thank you! 🤗🤗🤗 Well, that's a battle, for sure. The hormones are hard to deal with. You must remember too, that as she ages more of her "filters" will be removed. She will be more likely to just blurt things out even if they are hurtful.