What should I talk about when I reconnect with someone?

Find something engaging, something that deeply sparks your interest: anything; a book, a new hobby such as wood or metal work,start learning a musical instrument or take singing lessons, join a wilderness hiking group, or kayaking or cycling, join a volunteer cause such as a soup kitchen, pet shelter, wildlife rescue or landcare group, or even join the local group for your kind of politics - all these make for something to chat about.

If something comes up in the environment around you, start a chat about that: the waiter made an interesting joke, those two cars just had a near miss, someone passes by wearing a weird outfit, etc. Let the conversation meander where ever it will.

Keep an interest in the news and current affairs; try to find the most reliable media by checking out where they source their info. Chatting about these topics helps to discover the other person's values.

Ask the other about themselves. Most people love this because it's so rare that someone shows real interest. And it always is interesting to hear how different and amazing people are. And its a way to discover what you might share in common. People who've done therapy tend to be a lot more open.

Some people hate and resist it. The most common reasons for resistance are: they were raised to be private as a matter of "manners"; they don't trust others; or they feel shame due to low self-regard. Irrespective of their reasons, best to let the topic drop, treat it as a boundary and find another topic.

If they seem not to mind talking about deeper things, don't be afraid to share about the troubles you've been having. Keep it real but succinct. They can always ask more if they want to go deeper.

You don’t necessarily have to talk about anything going on in your life at the moment. Maybe just ask questions and see where conversation goes. I live a very monotonous life I don’t feel it’s all that exciting, but we usually find a topic we’re able to talk about. You could talk about something you’re passionate about or just life in general.

what are your interests? some things i find that I think are interesting to talk about are like:

-new finding like you would read in a magazine or online
-particulars of any common interest you have with the person
-your hopes and dreams
-your opinions on current events
-your experiences

maybe you should try to be a polite human being rather than being an antagonistic fucking prick

If you find it hard to start or keep conversations going for lack of inspiring topics ....ask questions about the other person .

Asking questions can be like throwing a pebble in a pond ...it creates conversational ripples .
A story might be told about childhood, and memories and family and fun. Suddenly four new topics are there to branched upon .

We love talking about ourselves ....its a common human trait .