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What is main point to be happy in a relationship or impress a woman?

İf anyone can teach me please do it!
Fairydust · F
Communication, understanding, respect, loving, kindness, looking after each other and having their back.
Make them feel special. 🌹
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@Fairydust even I am trying everything you said as my best why I was refusing because of I am ugly
Fairydust · F
@alimcandenizkusu I’m sure you’re not, just be yourself, the right one will turn up.
Abstraction · 61-69, M
Think about how you would like to be treated. Would you like the other person to be selfish or self-giving? Would you like them just to talk about themselves, or also take an interest in you? Would you like them to dismiss what you say as wrong, unimportant - or to take it seriously? If you're upset about something, would you want them to misunderstand you or would you want them to take the time to listen to your side of things? Would you want them to be really controlling of your life - or would you want them to be more like a partner to find common ground? Would you want them to always want their own way, or someone who cares about what you want? Would you want them to be moody, or to take the effort to be cheerful? Would you like her to flirt with other guys or know how to be committed to you?

Then behave like that, all the time. No matter what kind of mood you wake up in, always be considerate. That's called maturity.

Love isn't just a 'feeling'. That's nonsense. Sometimes love is a caring choice even when your feelings aren't happening. Relationships that work are ultimately about the type of people you choose to be to each other.
Happiness is more important than impressing.

But it's not as simple as that.

For starters, no living being can be happy 100% of the time.
The trick is, how do we respond when we're not happy? Do we deal with it in a constructive and creative way, or do we have a temper tantrum and use it as an opportunity for conflict?
Because every individual is different, it is inevitable that needs sometimes clash.
It's possible to learn skills of communication and intimacy that make it far easier to resolve these differences.
The test is, does an argument lead to a place where you understand and love each other more?
If so, you're on the right track to a successful relationship.

Impressing comes in many forms.
If you've done something well and if that thing is intrinsic to your values and goals,
and if she is impressed by it -
then you will be attractive to her in a way that is real and honest on both sides.
But if you try to do something solely for the sake of impressing her, it's likely to backfire.
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@hartfire thank you for great opinions I will try to do
The main point is to feel free to be yourself, and love another for being themselves - and to feel that special bond of true connection.
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@KuroNeko its true but ı feel so broken in other way I am confused
KuroNeko · 41-45, F
@alimcandenizkusu then you need to take some time to figure out who you are and what you want. You don't want to take your issues into a relationship, they will only be exacerbated.
@alimcandenizkusu You are a little young to feel broken. Broken is usually what happens when you are abused, treated like crap, and mocked by people who don't know you or your situation over and over again. Not getting a date shouldn't make you feel like that.

However, having real friends who treasure and respect you [i]can[/i] be healing in that situation.

Here's the thing about "issues" and relationships. Everyone has their own way of thinking. And people who love you will understand your issues and love you regardless. Those are decent people. People who don't understand your issues, are not the kind of people you need or want in your life. That doesn't give you a right to use your issues as an excuse to be a dick. But no one who is worth your time will reject you or mock you because of who you are.

Edit: Nor will someone who is worth your time mock you because of how you feel.
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
Just give her your paycheck that will make her happy
Fairydust · F
@MURD3RM0NK3Y 😬 not all woman are after money 🙄
marsbar · F
As long as you’re BOTH happy, that should be the goal.
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@marsbar I must move from Turkey then because everybody this way
marsbar · F
@alimcandenizkusu Gosh that’s awful. I’m sorry it’s like that there.
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@marsbar can we chat I have really some simple questions and I will not bother you
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
You can impress a woman and [b][i]still[/i][/b] not be happy in a relationship...

Find someone you can vibe with (consistently), work on it when things aren't so great, treat them like someone you actually [b][i]like[/i][/b] (...and get some of that in return).

Relationships really aren't that complicated; it's the people in them, that are problematic LOL
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
@alimcandenizkusu She's out there, you just haven't met [b][i]your[/i][/b] vibe yet.

Work on "you", til she comes around.
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@LucyFuhr thank you
LucyFuhr · 56-60, F
🤞
I wish you the best @alimcandenizkusu
SammyJo · 51-55, F
Happy together. Mutual respect....and....in LURVE!

😘💝💝😘
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@SammyJo trying it
SammyJo · 51-55, F
@alimcandenizkusu Good stuff!
nedkelly · 61-69, M
You need to be happy within yourself, being kind, romantic, safe and loving is all the lady needs

Dont ask me as I have been married for 40 years
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@Fairydust I am trying it but I was refusing because of my appearance
Fairydust · F
@alimcandenizkusu don’t dwell on how you look, if there’s chemistry/connection, that’s what matters.
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@Fairydust oh I understand it
AdaXI · 41-45, T
乂^◡^乂
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@AdaXI I wanna married not for fun
ammelee · F
a man cannot impress a woman
nedkelly · 61-69, M
@ammelee Well, I am must doing wrong can you please explain
SW-User
Be respectful
And if you think that you don't look good enough then exercise and work on your body
It does wonders
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
@SW-User I will try
SW-User
Should we really work on our bodies to please and attract others ? I’m not sure about that 🤷‍♂️@SW-User
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
The main point is to find compatibility.
alimcandenizkusu · 22-25, M
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
@alimcandenizkusu Similar interests. Fluid conversations instead of forced. Both people putting in equal effort.

 
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