Is it easier to be a single parent?

I was a single parent. I wouldn't have been my kid for a billion dollars. I had to leave them with the best daycare that I could afford (and it took almost all my salary) so that I could work to pay rent and buy food. My little guy was so traumatized (he was 2) that he woke up crying every morning, screaming, "Don't go, Mommy." I had to work long hours, so the daycare raised my babies. At night, I was too tired to do much more than feed them and read to them and put them to bed. I had no help when I was sick, when they were sick, on holidays, with school plays and homework - it was all on me, plus working, being on time every day and leaving late, as I was expected to do. It was hard work, and I failed every single day. So no, in no way whatever was it easier than having their dad involved.

children need the comfort of both parents

No
Raising a child is a 24/7 job if you want a well raised, well adjusted little human. It's more work than having a dog or growing the most fragile plant or having pristine white carpet in the living room. A child needs both parents and some good family, good friends, good community. It's not best for the average child to have only one parent especially speaking of gender influences and the repercussions.

good luck, having one influencer will make your kid an extremist with great adversity to any challenge of opinion. Unless you're a parent that's okay with absolutely everything your child does you will create a monster that will destroy you.

It would be harder to be a single parent, unless the other parent were not pulling his or her own weight. The idea is to be a parent to the child, not a parent to the other parent, as well.

[c=#002673]Grow the kid? Lol. I think it has its pros and cons as does having both parents. [/c]

i mean there’s probably those benefits but that doesn’t mean it’s easier overall

I don't care how fine a person you are or how fine your child is...there will be times when you simply cannot be around them for another single moment. Having a partner to take the handoff is important.

Also, given that parents frequently don't know WHAT to do, a sounding board and a second opinion is a great comfort.

It can be done and it often is. But it's not optimum.

Like a dictatorship?

I can’t imagine having done this alone.

She and I never pretended to know all the answers. The times where we disagreed were the times when we made the best decisions, ultimately together.

Not at all. I am not sure if I qualify as a single parent but I do have four youngsters under my legal guardianship and I provide for them.

Keeping an eye on every single one is lot of work. Paying for their education costs a lot..Guiding them and figuring out what's best for them can be very consuming. I'd not trade it for the world though. I love them.

Sometimes I do ask them if their lives were better with their parents and they say "no". I can never tell if that answer is a matter of providing them opportunities or my influence. Oh, and I do listen to second opinions, I don't know everything.

That's nice, but kids are a lot and having a partner to tag in when you need a break is definitely easier.

If you have money you can do anything

You might be ok, but kid would never experienced what's like to have a both parents.

No it is not easier...it's super hard raising kids

Grow the kid? 🤔