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Why dont people trust people that are TOO nice?

I'm a very very nice person but for some people, some people are creeped out by me. My friends said I'm too nice and I need to stop and be more assertive and fiesty is more fun. I tried to be nice and when people don't give in, I get angry. Is that why I don't have a lot of friends? Be honest

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Peppa · 31-35, F

I have this same problem. Then i go quiet, especially at work people use it as an excuse to exclude me. I have tried to just be apart of conversations express myself but im often cut into which means i have to restart my sentences. I have been late to work a lot recently by no fault of my own.
But i collect evidence should they ever qiestion my reasoning. But ill be doing my work in the clinic and they'll walk past to check that i am working.
They're suspicious of me for no reason.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

Because that's how people hide their true dark selves- they put on an act of "overly nice". Serial killers are a prime example.

LaurieKitKat94 · 26-30, F

@DearAmbellina2113 What are you trying to say? That I'm going to be a killer. I'm a sweet nice lady.

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@LaurieKitKat94 I'm just explaining why people generally dont trust someone that is "too nice".

LaurieKitKat94 · 26-30, F

@DearAmbellina2113 Oh. I guess that's why my friends prefer people that are fiesty and assertive

ElizabethBabe1994 · 26-30, F

Because they hide their true colors. They might be evil, manipulating people. I don't trust too nice people. That's why you have to be assertive.

DrWatson · 70-79, M

I trust nice people.

But I don't understand what you mean by people not giving in.

LaurieKitKat94 · 26-30, F

@DrWatson Like I expect them to do something nice back and they don't do it. I get angry.

DrWatson · 70-79, M

@LaurieKitKat94 I see. I think you are describing two separate aspects of your personality.

One is being nice. I admire that and disagree that feisty is more fun.

The other is getting angry at others when they do not respond in the way you expect them to. If these people are your friends, I would hope that they would be nice to you in response.

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