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How do you get through to a lazy young person without ambition?

Tarxarin · 26-30, M Best Comment
It really depends in the Dynamics honestly.

I think you should try to help find their "spark".

Remember, adding negitive consequences is garbage for motivation and training. Add good things, take negitive things away, take good things away. Don't add negitive consequences.

Help them find what they are good at.

Set something achievable, achievable for them, something good. And do not change that standard. The most important rule to success is consistently and the vast majority if people and adults can't be consistent.
blindbob · 41-45
@Tarxarin i really like this idea. thanks.
Tarxarin · 26-30, M
@blindbob I mentor teenagers so if you need anymore advice you can pm or or ask. Happy to help.

Les02 · 26-30, F
I remember when I got smart with my parents they would take something l valued from me and if I kept it up they would just keep talking things. No pocket money no playstation no tennis racket, I quickly realised if I kept it up all I would be left with was my clothing 🤷‍♀️
blindbob · 41-45
@Les02 that doesn't seem to work with this one.
SailorMarz · F
I've been trying to get through to myself for years (:
Let them live their life. I’m lazy with no ambition and I accidentally stumbled into a high paying job. Maybe they can too.
blindbob · 41-45
@MorbidCynic so you had some ambition. you showed up. you had job experience and you communicated it. sure there was some luck or privilege involved, but showing up is important.
Well I was just doing my normal activity. I would have been there anyway to shop lol and I only have job experience because I need money not because I care. Plus, he’s the one who asked about prior job experience because he thought I was underage 😂@blindbob
blindbob · 41-45
@MorbidCynic that's still something.
Eternity · 26-30, M
You dont. Leave them be. Hunger and cold are the best of teachers
blindbob · 41-45
@Eternity leave them for how long?
Tarxarin · 26-30, M
@blindbob as long as it takes. Not a second shorter. But I'm assuming your situation isn't as simple as that? There are human Dy namics.
blindbob · 41-45
@Tarxarin in the meantime, what? leave a 21 year old girl to sleep in the streets?
royalblue1193 · 31-35, M
Leave them alone until they realize themselves that nothing is happening for them
blindbob · 41-45
@royalblue1193 how long?
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