How did it get to this?

@Peppa Thank you, I know. It’s been over a year from when it all started. She’s in a care facility in NJ(were from NY, but they transferred her there for supposed better care). She was completely off the vent for months until she started crashing from the CO2 build up- so now it’s on 12, off 12. But she tries to take it off and now has a FT pretty much babysitter b/c they’re afraid they won’t get to her in time. She’s very stubborn, but I can’t blame her.

That is a huge step for your dad!! They’re prob afraid to reverse his progress. I hope he continues as it seems he will! They have to want to get better and it sounds like he wants that, so that’s really good..

Let me know if you ever need to talk.. I hope your dad gets better soon ❤

@MellyMel22 you too thank you so much for commenting.

As for your aunt her stubbornness shows she's very much alive and still very aware. She's asserting get right to refuse, which she has a right to do. In the beginning you see strong emotion to resistance part of the denial phase. Eventually as your aunt gets better she will relax (hopefully) my dad is suffering a little anxiety. He's very jumpy but that's normal. He's become very self aware/conscious recently and doesn't want to go out for too long. But I'm going to push him to stay out a little longer. He has become so shy and I hate it. But as he gets better he will grow in confidence

@Peppa
Thank you..

Yeah, it’ll all take time.. I can’t even imagine being in their spots. My Aunt had to be put on anxiety meds and never ever was before this all went on. They find she has less breathing issues with the anxiety meds, but I know she doesn’t like taking meds that aren’t necessary..

@mljenkins he hasn't seen me for 7 years he could have died he's desperate to see me. Because of the time. And I'm the only one of his kids that sees him regularly despite him being in this state. :-( I know I need some self Love but I also need a reality check from someone anyone that sees me on a day to day basis.
No one ever has or ever will for fear of how fragile I appear. When my fragility comes from no feedback at all. OK people say I'm nice and I'm kind but I know I'm not all time.
Instead I get people that hate me for whatever reason spewing unrealistic nonsense because they don't know me... like I think I'm all that? Who me? Ha! How little they know.

@Peppa no they aren’t at all .... I’m the same as you !! I wish you were near me I would have invited you to the movies today 🎥 🍿 & a bite 🍔 to eat afterwards - *hugs*!

@Lolco :-( if only... that is exactly what I need right now.

@Peppa but it’s ok, we both have comfort food to rely on (Ty soo much 🤗 )

@KaysHealingPath some would say I brought it on myself. The anxiety increased and I lashed out

@Peppa I don’t think so. There’s so many more factors - anxiety doesn’t set in unless there’s an underlying cause. Your anxious because of something in your history- it’s not simple to just shut it off.