I'll never understand why people get angry at other people's preferences when it comes to relationships
The open relationship idea seems to make a lot of people mad.
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CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
The idea of an open relationship strikes a chord in some people who have been cheated on or lied to, it seems from what I've read on these boards. So their reaction (what they write) can be very angry.
It's not easy to have an open relationship and takes more communication than most types. Obviously, it's not for everyone; I wouldn't recommend it and didn't know many long-term couples who tried it that had a super healthy relationship.
It's not easy to have an open relationship and takes more communication than most types. Obviously, it's not for everyone; I wouldn't recommend it and didn't know many long-term couples who tried it that had a super healthy relationship.
ZenKitzune · F
@CoffeeFirst Maybe it's just that we have been primed for so ling to think that monogamy is the only way to go. I think it will likely become more prevalent as people learn how to make it work.
CoffeeFirst · 56-60, F
@ZenKitzune I think a lot more people think that they can make it work than will actually be successful at it. But that's just my experience. Younger people are more open to the idea these days, I do know that.
ZenKitzune · F
@CoffeeFirst Yeah I think we live very much according to what we believe is possible.
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ZenKitzune · F
@NankerPhelge Some people are just rigid in their thinking. Sometimes people react negatively to anything that reflects part of them that they are trying to deny or distance themselves from. It can be completely unconscious.
NankerPhelge · 61-69, M
@ZenKitzune I'm rigid in my thinking, yet I see no reason to react negatively to something that's none of my business in the first place. How is another person's relationships affecting me in any way? 🤔
ZenKitzune · F
@NankerPhelge Like I said, it's unconscious.
SW-User
@ZenKitzune i believe that. But people who sleep around with anybody even after being committed makes it's super complicated. Or probably sex addict people do it to only get pleasure.
ZenKitzune · F
@SW-User I don't think you should be judging something you don't know anything about.
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@ZenKitzune ok. I won't judge. :)
CheshireCatalyst · 36-40, M
Some people really buy into the myth that one person can meet all of someone's needs.
Then the other end of the angry spectrum is the people who realise they are falling way short but don't want to admit that there's another option for their partner that could make them happy.
Then the other end of the angry spectrum is the people who realise they are falling way short but don't want to admit that there's another option for their partner that could make them happy.
ZenKitzune · F
@CheshireCatalyst very true.
Faust76 · 46-50, M
Many people confuse it with cheating, even some participating. Cheating is just secretly breaking the agreements of the relationship, with another. I mean like, literally, that's "cheating".
On the other hand, a lot of people get angry about people who prefer to stay monogamous.
On the other hand, a lot of people get angry about people who prefer to stay monogamous.
SW-User
i've known people who literally couldn't discern the difference between an open relationship and cuckolding even though they're not related at all. noone really knows why they find these things troubling it's just a mountain of assumptions like everything else in their lives
Gangstress · 41-45, F
ZenKitzune · F
@Gangstress is that a terrible thing? Should we all strive to get everything from one person?
Gangstress · 41-45, F
@ZenKitzune I didn't say it was terrible. It's something I personally don't understand or get what people want from an open relationship
I love a lot of people it doesn't meant I wanna shag em
I love a lot of people it doesn't meant I wanna shag em
ZenKitzune · F
@Gangstress maybe it's not always about sex.
All I can say is that attempting to find everything I need in one place has always proved impossible. I don't see why we put so much pressure onto relationships. If you find everything in one place then good for you but I don't see harm in trying other ways.
All I can say is that attempting to find everything I need in one place has always proved impossible. I don't see why we put so much pressure onto relationships. If you find everything in one place then good for you but I don't see harm in trying other ways.
SW-User
@ZenKitzune I think it threatens their little world if other people live differently and that insecurity makes them lash out. They feel safer in a homogeneous environment.
ZenKitzune · F
SW-User
@ZenKitzune LOL
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😂 @TacoCat
Spoiledbrat · F
They probably just don’t understand it. @ZenKitzune
ZenKitzune · F
@Spoiledbrat that, I'm 100% sure of.
Spoiledbrat · F
NankerPhelge · 61-69, M
BlueMetalChick · 26-30, F
Open relationships don’t upset me but they seem like kind of a pointless idea to me.
ZenKitzune · F
@BlueMetalChick that's neither here nor there though unless it's your relationship. I'm talking about people feeling the need to give others their angry opinion on something that has zero to do with them.