When you talking to a guy and he stops responding slowly and doesn't reply till forever
What's gonna on? He use to text right a way and reply, now he takes his time why?
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In a way, it doesn't matter. It'd be almost impossible to address it in a way that didn't make you seem butthurt. The best bet is to move on, keep the door open but also open a few new windows..haha
Fav777 · 26-30, F
That is so cute I love it thanks for the advice! @plungesponge
SW-User
I feel you on this. I freak out when a guy doesn't respond to my messages right away. I would even message him furious things and tell him to never message me ever again and make drama and a scene, only to find out that he was just eating and left his phone in his room. And then I feel so embarrased usually lol.
I just freak out when guys don't answer right away cause I'm always scared that he's focused on another girl and when I'm interested in him that thought alone would seriously hurt.
I just freak out when guys don't answer right away cause I'm always scared that he's focused on another girl and when I'm interested in him that thought alone would seriously hurt.
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Fav777 · 26-30, F
@SW-User yeah like I just feel like he's tired of me. But just won't say so. He used to reply so fast every single time even on Snapchat but not anymore. He even takes hours. Why can't he just told me he doesn't want to talk to you more?
SW-User
@Serenitree I just have low self-confidence.
Serenitree · F
@SW-User I'm sorry about that. My problem is.......I grew up in a different era. My correspondence was often but mail. Post. Not email. Sometimes we didn't get more than a couple of letters a month. When we were in the same city, we called, but back then, there weren't even answering machines or call display. When we called, they either answered or not. Waiting a few days or a week wasn't anything to fret about unless we had already made definite plans and they didn't show up or call to cancel.
I've never learned to expect instant responses. I figure they have a life, just as I do. My family knows better than to get impatient if I'm slow to respond.
I've never learned to expect instant responses. I figure they have a life, just as I do. My family knows better than to get impatient if I'm slow to respond.
Sounds like he's not interested.
Coralmist · 41-45, F
You know I read this blog about dating once and it was a lot about how men just leave a woman hanging after acting like she was awesome and they clicked etc... the woman, who was duped by someone she really loved, said don't ever EVER hang around 'wondering' why is he taking so long to reply to me?? It could be anything, but it doesn't really matter. If he gets back, good, if he doesn't, fine.. you can meet someone who is more consistent if you choose !! :)
Serenitree · F
Serenitree · F
@Fav777 because he was unsure of you. Responding instantly is what happens in a new relationship.
Kind of like sex in a new marriage. It starts out being a few times a day, but then life needs to be lived. Work needs to be done. The energy is different. So it becomes maybe, every night or less. Eventually it becomes less frequent depending on what the couple is doing. Work, family, children, friends, all need to be attended to.
Just because he isn't all over you as he was in the beginning, doesn't mean he's not interested. Does he have a job? Go to university? Have a family? Friends?
If you need him to drop everything and respond immediately, perhaps you should examine your self confidence. I just know that I tended to back away from any guy who got too demanding of my time.
I hope, if you really like this guy, you will cut him some slack, or he just may cut you loose.
Kind of like sex in a new marriage. It starts out being a few times a day, but then life needs to be lived. Work needs to be done. The energy is different. So it becomes maybe, every night or less. Eventually it becomes less frequent depending on what the couple is doing. Work, family, children, friends, all need to be attended to.
Just because he isn't all over you as he was in the beginning, doesn't mean he's not interested. Does he have a job? Go to university? Have a family? Friends?
If you need him to drop everything and respond immediately, perhaps you should examine your self confidence. I just know that I tended to back away from any guy who got too demanding of my time.
I hope, if you really like this guy, you will cut him some slack, or he just may cut you loose.
Serenitree · F
@Fav777 then maybe its good you've discovered that before things went to the point where you were in love with him
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
He has to take his time now with thinking of new lies. It was easy at first but now he really has to use his brain.
Serenitree · F
@MURD3RM0NK3Y betcha can't read mine.
MURD3RM0NK3Y · 26-30, M
@Serenitree Nope 😕
Serenitree · F
@MURD3RM0NK3Y 😉
SailorMarz · F
You can ask him "what are you doing?" Lol
Fav777 · 26-30, F
Hahaha good one@Serenitree
Fav777 · 26-30, F
@SailorMarz yeah I think I'm gonna stop n if I do he just won't text back till forever. Not gonna waste my time
Serenitree · F
@Fav777 I wasn't kidding. To you, forever might be a couple of hours. To him a couple of hours might fly by without him noticing if he's in the middle of a job or dining with family. Or anything.
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Serenitree · F
@Fav777 that sounds like your best bet. Give up on him.
Fav777 · 26-30, F
Yeah I am he sure such an asshole lol he wasn't ugly anyway@Serenitree
Serenitree · F
@Fav777 okay. I'm guessing you aren't as interested in him as I first thought you were. I just can't see giving up on someone so easily if I was actually interested in them.
Catzgano · 31-35, F
He's found a new text buddy.
Serenitree · F
How long have you two been a couple?
Peaceful · F
It's over...
SW-User
He got tired