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Very few people here are good at talking. Rarely coherent, rarely naturally flowing

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HPL69 · M
It starts with a few messages exchanged, then nothing happens. As far as I'm concerned, the majority of my contacts are from the United States, and since we're not in the same time zone, that creates gaps.
ironborn · 51-55, M
It's really frustrating when you type so much, questions, trying to lead to a flowing conversation then the reply is 3 words.

Drys me out to be honest.
swirlie · 31-35
@ironborn
Yes, I realize it's draining when we deal with someone like that who basically demonstrates themselves to be either lazy as hell or just plain illiterate.

I have a rule that I use when typing to someone new. If by my 3rd volley of the ball into their court, if I haven't gotten a response from them that is greater than what I'd otherwise expect to receive from a 13 year old girl texting her mall friends, then I end the conversation and move on.
ironborn · 51-55, M
@swirlie I don't mind leading the conversation but I like to be asked questions too. If they dont question me, are they interested in me? I think not.
swirlie · 31-35
@ironborn
I agree with you 100%. When you discuss something with someone and their first response out of the gate is something unrelated to what you've just written 7 paragraphs about, you know you're likely dealing with a narcissistic sociopath, not someone who is genuinely interested in anything you've got to say.
I've noticed. That's all over the net too. I'm wondering if that's from those who's first language isn't English or they just type exactly the string of words that pop out of their brain in whatever order it is and don't bother to check the sentence they've output. I'll grant that anybody can make typos.
Aami1 · 26-30, F
@froggtongue It's certainly more than just typos - incoherent sentences, sentences that don't flow - either with themselves or with what was just said, responses that come across as autistic on many different levels due to missing nuances in what was said, things inappropriate for the sort of emotional context that was being set and more.
@Aami1 Yet in many instances in which I find myself perplexed by what the writer is trying to convey, I often see someone else respond with seemingly knowing what the conversation is about. Is there some other phenomenon going on? Perhaps a shorthand of thought expression or an economy of word/letter usage? Might the participants even not know what the other is really saying and is just putting out their own thoughts?
swirlie · 31-35
@froggtongue
I'm wondering if that's from those who's first language isn't English or they just type exactly the string of words that pop out of their brain

It's actually very prevalent as part of the western culture-inspired social media culture which uses stuff like 'text speak' to communicate with one another on hand-held devices while they're hanging out at the mall.

This phenomenon has become more and more prevalent over the last 10 years, to the point where it's acceptance has become the 'norm' for literary composition, even in the business world in some circles.

The only real problem that arises, is when those folks from that genre of communication attempt to apply for their first job and they are literally unable to fill out an online application form for employment... because they can't spell, they cannot form sentences and they do not interact well with real people when placed in front of a desk and interviewed one-on-one. This is mainly because they're not use to being in the company of 'live' human beings, but are only use to the online versions of human interaction.
Yes, it is our specialty but thanks for noticing. 👍
Docdon23 · M
I am a very effective speaker, thank you. Would you like to talk?
Pherick · 41-45, M
I think the problem is that this isn't really meant to be a "flowing chat" type site. Its meant to be a "leave a comment and come back in an hour to reply". Real chat needs to move to Signal/WhatsApp/Whatever the kids are using these days.
HPL69 · M
BlackPetals · 18-21, F
I am one of the few...
Turtlepower · 36-40, M
This site is kind of tough for that anyways. It really depends on the type of conversation you're looking for.
HoeBag · 46-50, F
Yeah, this isn't the best forum for deep conversation.
samueltyler2 · 80-89, M
We don't talk here, we text.
Offthetop · 56-60, M
Maybe your profile picture attracts the wrong type of respondents.
Gibbon · 70-79, M
@Aami1 I the butt did the trick. Even though he says he doesn't care Koggg showed up to reply. I think he's lying and has the hots for your avi. Imma confront him. Koggg is an SW treat Lol.
HoeBag · 46-50, F
@Offthetop
The two traits are not mutually exclusive but leading with the butt pic is likely to attract one-handed typists.

Why would her PFP attract amputees specifically though?
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BlackPetals · 18-21, F
Really? I guess. I haven't really noticed or paid attention.
Tumbleweed · F
You can always leave 🤷‍♂
What you mean?
Hopelandia · M
Well, that's because it's difficult to write exactly the way you would talk.
they arre certainly short on content, and the abilty to let a conversation flow.
and i think too many are here for "particular" reasons
@SatyrService 😮 My goodness. My, whatever do you mean? Surely the capacity of a human to be on many different levels should ensure that conversations never have to cease or fall back on the the same peculiarities.
@froggtongue indeed one would thing so
but in so many on line communities i have noticed that
over time, those who come for deeper interaction get replaced by those that are just here for
sexual content
@SatyrService froggtongue is shocked! 😲
Thevy29 · 41-45, M
Stop, you're making me blush. 😚
Depends on what you want to talk about
@Aami1
they dont have enough practice. online life tends to make peole use the shortest sentences.
and many of them are only semi literate
Koggg · M
Kog dont care
Koggg · M
@Gibbon to much word
Koggg · M
@HoeBag shush
Gibbon · 70-79, M
@Koggg Okay Kog Gibbon shush.
Koggg · M
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