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I Want Someone I Can Tell Anything To

I want someone that I can tell anything to. Based on the membership of this group alone, I’d wager to say that it is a rather common desire. Perhaps it is something we all crave on some base level - which makes it ironic that we are actively preventing it with the way that we present ourselves.

We all have our masks we wear. They are there to protect us and keep hidden the things that we’d rather not want the world to see. Though the mask doesn’t stop out there... we veil ourselves in almost all our communications with other people. We do this mostly as a result of our own fears and insecurities. We are so terrified of rejection that we hide the parts of ourselves most likely to get rejected as a defense. Sadly, we usually end up hiding the most from the people we love the most.

What we don’t realize right away is how isolating it all can be. There are very few things as cold as feeling lonely inside a relationship. The easiest way to achieve that is by hiding parts of yourself from your partner. As the isolation grows, it forms a rift between your partner and yourself, which only feeds into the desire to hide.

But not with you. You unearthed and discovered my deepest darkest truths, without me even being aware of it. You peered behind the veil and saw the ugliness that I try to hide from those I care about... I would have tried to hide it from you as well. You saw it all; yet you did not look away and you did not run.

What this all has left me with, is a relationship in which I can be my complete and honest self without fear of judgement. I am left with a partner that is capable of loving the real me and not just the projected illusion. I am left with someone I can tell anything to. I have never felt less lonely or more loved.

With all this, I want you to know that it would be my honor and my privilege to be the same for you. I want to be the someone you can tell anything to... because I love you - the real you - no masks, no veils, no illusions.
Seriously? This is [b][i]exactly[/i][/b] what I've been looking for. The problem has been, I find people who's non-judgemental-ness turns out to be part of [b][i]their[/i][/b] masks. So when I tell my truths to them, and they have some underlying issues with what I'm saying, that non-judgement-ness they proclaim to have falls away, and some truths about themselves they may not even know they have, bleed through and leads to judgement and criticism.

A lot of people want me to see who they [b][i]believe[/i][/b] they are, not who they [b][i]truly[/i][/b] are.
You're amazing. I may take you up on your offer. So far, I've NEVER found anyone I can tell anything to. Even counselors.
But there's nothing more I would like in my life than someone I can just BE with and tell anything to without fear of judgement or criticism.
Lullacus · 31-35, F
@PhoenixPhail That is what makes SW such a special place. It provides a space in which you can be your true, honest self without fear of judgement. It seems that it may be easier to be honest towards complete strangers than to the people we know and love.
Chevy454 · 46-50, M
Definitely. @Lullacus
@Lullacus Well, I can choose to be my true, honest self anywhere. I think there are people everywhere judged or not. Many people on social media find it an even better place TO judge because they can hide within their anonymity. But also, people may be more accepting and less judgemental BECAUSE of their anonymity, as well. You seem one with whom I might be able to be completely honest in safety. 😊🤗
SW-User
Truly wonderful 🙂
Deepbreath · 46-50, M
Hi Lullacus I pm you. Hope that's ok

 
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