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Do you ever feel like you don't fit in?

I don't mean like you don't fit into a social group or whatever, I mean that you don't fit in with people generally. Like you don't fit in anywhere with anyone, like you're detached from everyone else. Like there's some fundamental inability to connect with others, while connecting with and understanding others around you.

That's not normal, right?
SW-User
if it's something that bothers the person, it might not be ideal. not sure about what's normal. i feel connections with others everywhere i go. it can be overwhelming at times
SW-User
@KiwiDan that's okay. i guess i was wondering if you're looking for general connections, like making friends, or an intimate connection. either way, it seems making friends is a logical first step for you, if you need to have deep trust to connect.
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@SW-User I understand. I do have some friends, and I'd love an intimate connection. But people generally IRL are pretty quick to avoid me so I'm not sure it's worth it any more.
SW-User
@KiwiDan awww... of course it's worth it 🤗
wackidywack · 26-30
it's a rare feeling when i actually feel like I fit in
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@wackidywack Same. Even when I do, there's still that weird detachment
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
I think I know what you mean.

Like you're just an imitation of what a person is supposed to be?
Yes, I feel this way.
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@caPnAhab Like I'm observing from the outside, and communication follows the "how do you do fellow humans" approach.
caPnAhab · 26-30, M
@KiwiDan I asked a similar question days ago.

People suggested its disassociation
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@caPnAhab Hmm, that's probably a possibility.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
That's everyday of my life.

I used to try to fit in but I don't try anymore.

I don't care tbh. People usually trash me so I just don't try anything anymore.
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@Beatbox34 Not caring seems to be the way to go.
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
@KiwiDan If I'm being honest. I'm dead inside at this point. It helps me pass by.
SW-User
sort of. it gets better the more i force myself to interact with people, but i regress to feeling completely socially inept very quickly
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@SW-User 🤗 I have a similar problem. It ends up feeling very superficial when in a state of considerable interactions.
Forgetmeknot · 41-45
I can make myself fit in but I don't really fit in. That's how I feel. Then it feels like effort and unenjoyable.
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@Forgetmeknot That is fair enough
ExtremeNext · 31-35
No never

And yes it's you 😏
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@ExtremeNext Why? It's not your fault there's something wrong with me.
ExtremeNext · 31-35
@KiwiDan I know hun I think most people in NZ are a bit whacked 😥
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@ExtremeNext Pretty sure that's the perpetual heatstroke talking for you XD
MiserableAtBest · 22-25, F
Sure, but then I remember I never cared to in the first place
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@MiserableAtBest I wish I could be half as cool as you.
I don’t know if it’s normal, but it’s pretty common. I’ve felt that way often, and most people I know have felt that way from time to time.
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@bijouxbroussard Maybe this is what capitalist alienation feels like.
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
Pretty much all my life.
DDonde · 31-35, M
I can relate, I don't have answer for you though
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@DDonde I've seen other random people on other random sites mention something similar and call it "ASD".
MoonaNorth86 · 36-40, F
Yes everyday
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@MoonaNorth86 It seems like that's what SW is for: collecting all the misfits in one place.
SW-User
Idk. I fit in, to an extent. Im always a little different tho. I do my own thing
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@SW-User Good for you!
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KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@SW-User I agree, but communication on a level beyond "how do you do fellow humans" would be nice on my part lol.

 
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