How needy does it sound to ask your friend or family whether they loved you?

@DoubleRings I'm so sorry about what you have gone through. 🥹 How is your relationship with her now?

Also, your question is very valid.
I think when I feel like I have no inner positive energy from me, I try to get it from others. Same for love apparently. 💔

@AoNoSora my mom passed over a decade ago. When I left it wasn’t on good terms -I was in a good financial position to live on my own and we had our final blowout about the drinking. I told her the drinking stops or I’m out. And I was serious. I was an adult but still in school and hoping it would go smoothly. She seemed amenable to discussion but my dad shot his mouth off saying if I didn’t like how things go in the house “there’s the door”. I was tired of his shit too. He was trying to call my bluff and so I called his, and used the door. It took several months for us to even talk again, but we were certainly a better team at the end of her life - she ultimately had to stop drinking over the years bc of a medical complication. She was a much nicer person when sober. Her death was pretty traumatic for me and put me in your position. Feeling like no one loved me. And I needed to be loved. So when I look back, it’s still hard for me to believe, but I think the problem was I didn’t love myself…

@Onryo Im so sorry about it 🥹 it must be tough to deal with

@TinyViolins Thank you for your insight ! You are right... sometimes their action show love... but I'm just get anxious at times. 🥹
In counterpart, I do say I love you a lot (to the people I sincerely love) and I give a lot of love. 🥹 Sometimes I say it just so I hear it in return 🥹

@AoNoSora Everyone has their own love language. For some, it's very important to make sure it's said and understood, others show it through physical language like hugs or touch, some give gifts, some give compliments, some believe in acts of service.

Anxiety definitely works hard to highlight our insecurities and doubts, but a lot of the time it's nothing but noise in our heads. Is is possible for some of your friends and family to be inauthentic about their love for you? Of course. But for every single one of them to not love you? Sounds very unlikely

@Selah I did tell them for a while. But I've been struggling for quite a long time. So I'm scared that I'm being redundant or too much on them 😅

@AngelUnforgiven thank you for saying tha. You are giving me courage.

@chuck7882 Thanks for the insight !