SinlessOnslaught · M
What do you know about false guilt or self blame for a traumatic experience, so extreme that it even reflects in the narrative of the effected person's mind? They recount things as if they caused something that they did not. That's a symptom, right?
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
@SinlessOnslaught False guilt (also known as survivor guilt or toxic guilt) is when someone takes on blame for things that were outside their control. This can include Feeling responsible for being abused, believing they "should have done more", Thinking their actions led to a tragedy when they didn’t, & This kind of guilt can feel very real to the person, even when it's completely irrational.
Therapists often work to help people reframe their narratives to recognize what was really their responsibility—and what wasn’t. Not everyone has access to these kinds of resources but sometimes it could help to try to see the situation from a different angle.
Gently observe the actual reality of the situation
Ask: “Would you blame a friend if this happened to them?”
Affirm that your feelings are valid, but the facts matter too
Every time these guilty feelings arise, remember those three phrases.
I have ocd and I have to do this a lot. It really helps. My affirming method is I say the phrases until the guilty or compulsive feelings go away
Therapists often work to help people reframe their narratives to recognize what was really their responsibility—and what wasn’t. Not everyone has access to these kinds of resources but sometimes it could help to try to see the situation from a different angle.
Gently observe the actual reality of the situation
Ask: “Would you blame a friend if this happened to them?”
Affirm that your feelings are valid, but the facts matter too
Every time these guilty feelings arise, remember those three phrases.
I have ocd and I have to do this a lot. It really helps. My affirming method is I say the phrases until the guilty or compulsive feelings go away
SinlessOnslaught · M
@DeluxedEdition A friend told me I'm experiencing this. I spend a lot of time wondering if they're correct.
ABCDEF7 · M
I think, it can also arise due to lack of experience, hard work and confidence in your work.
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DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
@ABCDEF7 I personally think this is why I suffer from it. :(
ABCDEF7 · M
@DeluxedEdition So, how you are managing it?
DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F
@ABCDEF7 I just try to remember the outcome of why I am doing the thing I feel the "imposter syndrome" coming from. That is usually the light at the end of the tunnel for me
SaorUladh · 31-35, M
Yeah. I went through that a lot earlier this year. I finally achieved something worthwhile and, instead of wanting to celebrate, I found myself feeling like a fraud.
OldBrit · 61-69, M
My own experience is that my imposter syndrome attacks everything I do regardless of its perceived value.
GerOttman · 61-69, M
But what if you just don't want others to know how awesome you are because it might make them feel bad about themselves?
Wonderman69 · 31-35, M
We should have sex ur thinking too much