Imposter syndrome only shows up when you're doing something great.

Nobody doubts themselves while playing small. That voice in your head isn’t truth—it’s fear dressed up as “humility.”

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What do you know about false guilt or self blame for a traumatic experience, so extreme that it even reflects in the narrative of the effected person's mind? They recount things as if they caused something that they did not. That's a symptom, right?

DeluxedEdition · 26-30, F

@SinlessOnslaught False guilt (also known as survivor guilt or toxic guilt) is when someone takes on blame for things that were outside their control. This can include Feeling responsible for being abused, believing they "should have done more", Thinking their actions led to a tragedy when they didn’t, & This kind of guilt can feel very real to the person, even when it's completely irrational.

Therapists often work to help people reframe their narratives to recognize what was really their responsibility—and what wasn’t. Not everyone has access to these kinds of resources but sometimes it could help to try to see the situation from a different angle.

Gently observe the actual reality of the situation

Ask: “Would you blame a friend if this happened to them?”

Affirm that your feelings are valid, but the facts matter too

Every time these guilty feelings arise, remember those three phrases.

I have ocd and I have to do this a lot. It really helps. My affirming method is I say the phrases until the guilty or compulsive feelings go away

SinlessOnslaught · M

@DeluxedEdition A friend told me I'm experiencing this. I spend a lot of time wondering if they're correct.