Where did all the friends go?

I turned 29 , decided to quit my job and suddenly realised I am paying someone to talk to me on a weekly basis (bless my therapist). I have maybe 5 people I can call friends but they sure don't feel like friends from time to time. Some will disrespect you outright in the guise of jokes, some will compare how your wedding was not as beautiful as someone else's, some will keep poking you for good news and once they get the idea that you are doing well , will struggle to even put up a fake smile. And then there are the special ones who will ignore you for seven months straight only to appear at your doorstep to help write her statement of purpose.
I mean seriously , does any woman approaching their thirties feel like they have zero friends? I hide most aspect of my life nowadays but cant help but stay tethered to frenemies . Any tips?