Did your friends disappear when your relationship broke down?

Yes mine did.
They wanted to know what happened.
Tried to convince me not to take him back.

But I noticed they stopped calling as much.

I don't think I've been down during this breakup I've been quite pragmatic. So this is weird for me.

Especially not seeing people like I used to.

Maybe my indifference is unsettling.

Maybe I should have been down just to make them feel useful. 🤷🏾

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FoxyGoddess · 51-55, F

I was pretty fortunate to have kept my pre relationship friends, so I really didn't lose the ones I care about. And a few of his ended up taking my side too, so there was that.

People take sides, sadly.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@FoxyGoddess they weren't even his friends that's why it's so odd.
But I have had a lot of ups and downs in my life. Maybe it's become a broken record for them.
I thought they understood the circumstances but I'm the common dominator so I have to factor that in.

I'm glad you had people during that period of time

Ducky · 31-35, F

Actually, they disappeared as mine formed. I was with a woman before starting my current relationship with a man and since, many of my friends and acquaintances began drifting away from me. I guess everyone preferred me being a lesbian for whatever reason. Funny thing, though: I never once said that I was a lesbian. Not sure what it is about me being with a man that’s put people off, but it’s whatever.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Ducky weird

Ducky · 31-35, F

@Mellowgirl It is what it is. But at least I know who my true friends are

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@Ducky I guess that's one thing for you can count on.

JamesBugman

Bla, people vanish whether you are together or not. People are busy and maintaining relationships gets tiring after a while. It is much easier to just not see them anymore. True friends will always be there to help you move or go to a concert or whatever.

HowtoDestroyAngels · 46-50, M

They did, but not only was I going through the divorce, but I was also quitting drinking. I'm much happier now twelve years later with very few friends sober, than I was back then with tons of "friends" drunk.

Mellowgirl · 31-35, F

@HowtoDestroyAngels sometimes these things are blessings we didn't even realise we needed

exchrist · 36-40

Unfortunately I had health concerns that destroyed a few of my most treasured friendships. The health issue was not identified until much later.

BrandNewMan · M

Sounds very similar

romell · 51-55, M

If they did disappear then they weren't friends in the true sense at all

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