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why don't my friends I knew yrs ago have an interest in seeing me?

I moved from where I used to live a month ago. I spent a lot of money on movers and the train to get here. I lived here yrs ago and had a lot of friends here. I had filled out something with housing and I couldn't stay where I was cause I couldn't sleep nights cause of trains and loud music from neighbors. I was looking forward to seeing old friends here, I've only seen one so far in church but she don't go every WK, she just went the one time in months just to see me. I got an apt here so I'm not homeless or anything. its just that I feel like I got ripped off. I thought it would be fun to be with old friends and go to church with them but I've only seen one in the month. I've thought of going out more on my own but I haven't been feeling the greatest myself, I have swollen legs and feet and I found out they were from blood clots, the doctor I saw here I showed him my legs and I got sent to the ER. I also have a small one in my lungs. I'm taking blood thinners for a month and hoping it goes away. haven't even told my friends about it, not going to if they don't seem to care about me. I'm starting to regret moving here. I enjoyed it here a lot yrs ago, wondered if I should just go somewhere else. I'm not broke so I have the money to do it, any suggestions?
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In my experience, people tend to get on with life in the moment and tend to lose touch with those from the past. For instance, I've had good friends I've drifted from as we each were busy with careers and raising a family. Others have moved away, and just never seem to find time to connect.

Don't take it personally, just always keep the door open.
ilovehats · 31-35, FNew
Did you stay in touch with them after you moved away? If you didn't so much, maybe this is why, people move on with their lives. But you should try telling them what is going on with you as you might get a better response.
Is it possible to invite them round or suggest you meet up and go out some time?
Other than that, not sure what else you can do except try to make new friends - would at your church be a start? I know some congregations hardly know each other don't even talk but that isn't how it should be.
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@ilovehats yes, I did stay in touch with them.
peterlee · M
Too many ghosts in places of the past. Most of the buildings are the same and so are the squares and the parks. But the people are either not there or moved on. You are a different person in maturity now, with new interests and encounters.
Neoerectus · M
Cultivate the renewal of friendship one at a time... old common ingerests, new common interests?, etc.

People open up better one-on-one. No pressure... Cup of coffee. Funny play/movie. Etc.
Musicman · 61-69, M
@Neoerectus I like this and I agree.
masterofyou · 70-79, M
Its time to make new friends sorry things didn't work out and i hope you get better and back on your feet again...😊
Wherever you go, you're going to have to put down new roots for yourself... so, maybe you could at least try that where you are now???

What is available locally that you might enjoy experiencing??? Give that a try first, even if you go alone, you might find new friends as you go about doing that.
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Jayciedubb · 56-60, M
I think they're calling it the internet. Nobody visits anybody anymore these days. Times have changed
Musicman · 61-69, M
Give it another month. See if your old friends come around and how your legs and feet do. If your legs and feet are healed and your friends don't come around then possibly consider moving. If you moved where would you go?
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Ferise1 · 46-50, M
@jshm2 aww you’re mean😂
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