How would you manage growing away from life-long friends due to their choice to remain stagnant?

Move on is an easy answer, but really ponder those ramifications.

Starcrossed · 41-45, F

The growing away part I've come to accept. It's replacing my social network with healthy relationships that set good boundaries that I've fallen short of. How do you meet all new friends in middle age?

iamnikki · 31-35, F

@Starcrossed Seems pretty impossible for me. I've tried everything that is suggested: church groups, volunteering, classes, meetups etc. Nothing works because people have their own lives and don't make time for others.

TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 41-45, MVIP

Covid sorted that out..
they expelled my unvaxxed ass.. now they can’t even look at me.. weird

sree251 · 41-45, M

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout Why did you choose to avoid getting vaxed?

TheOneyouwerewarnedabout · 41-45, MVIP

@sree251 guess I’m just a tin foil hat wearing weirdo..
it all went as predicted by a lot of ppl ..
Alex jones even told everyone play by play what was going to happen..

But that lil cognitive dissonance devel in the back of everyone mind has convinced us he’s just a lucky fluke conspiracy guy

sree251 · 41-45, M

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout Can you give me a straight simple answer? I am not bright enough to get what you are saying?

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

In which way are your friends being stagnant? Maybe you could ask them if they’re going through something they need help with.

eventtemple123 · 22-25, M

What I'm doing is making new friends, but still meeting up with the old ones every once in a while.

sree251 · 41-45, M

@eventtemple123 You sound like like a well-balanced guy.

CrazyMusicLover · 31-35

How exactly is that supposed to stay in the way if you are true friends?

sree251 · 41-45, M

@CrazyMusicLover The answer is obvious: they are not true friends. The OP question is similar to that of someone in a stale marriage.

OlderSometimesWiser · F

Seems like a natural evolution if you’re moving forward while they’re staying in place. You’re busy, having new experiences, less time for them. They’re stagnant, so fewer things in common, less motivation to make contact, and the relationship fades over time.

Or, maybe they’re just happy cheering you on from the sidelines and you can learn to be content with that.

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