Why do I feel bad? 😔 Over the past months, one of my closest friends started distancing...

Flenflyys · 31-35, F

That’s life. People change, circumstances change

You’re still really young and probably thinking your friendships as family. People tend to drift towards and away from each other over a lifetime. It’s is normal and natural. You can reach out less and less and when they reach back you can reach toward them too if you want. Don’t feel badly. It is life.

NerdySoph · 26-30, F

It is normal to feel guilty even when the fault is not ours. We're searching for a reason to the event, and when our mind cannot find one, it goes for the nearest thing .. ourselves.

In short - let her be ..
she has a new thing and may or may not appreciate the history you all have, but you cannot control that, and definitely should never blame yourself for it :)

MrBrownstone · 46-50, M

Sometimes people drift apart. I had friends for 10 years that I lost. You just feel guilty because you always think about what you could have done differently. But people drift away. It happens.

TexChik · F

Don't be unkind or burn any bridges, things change

BeefySenpie · M

We feel bad because it’s comforting to think that relationships are valued equally by both parties, when the reality is they often aren’t. It’s not worth fighting for because there’s no point in persuading someone to value something if it’s not intrinsic

Livingwell · 61-69, M

I have a friend of over 40 yrs ghost me. I was the maid of honor at her wedding. We were that close. People do change.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

Talk to her and find out the reason she wanted out of your group

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

Maybe she will
Get back a lot later
Don’t feel guilty

PhoenixPhail · M

The friendship has to be mutually desired. It doesn't sound like she has an interest. If not, best to let it go.

JohnHenry · 36-40, M

You can’t force people to be who they once were. Times and people change

Teslin · M

You can't "fight" for her friendship.
Just let things happen naturally.

Nitedoc · 51-55, M

I've felt the same way. It hurts.

jenmil · 22-25, F

No let it go

bijouxbroussard · F

Only in terms of keeping the communication open so that they know you are still their friend and have no hard feelings (assuming that’s true). Even if you no longer hang out together regularly, if it’s just the two of you occasionally for coffee. The friendship can survive if you both want that.

uncalled4 · 56-60, M

My feeling is no, it sucks but I hate the idea of my friendship not being valued.

Lilnonames · F

people come into your life for a lesson but not for the journey

Workerbee · 31-35, M

You feel bad because you feel that she wronged you by ignoring you