Why do I feel bad? 😔

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Over the past months, one of my closest friends started distancing herself from our group. Little by little we could tell that she was drifting away from us. And later I learned that she has a new friend group, which is fine, I didn’t take it as there being anything wrong with that. But as time went on, she ignored us completely… And we’ve supported her through some of the most difficult and painful moments in her life… I don’t think I did anything wrong, then why do I feel so guilty??

My question is, is it worth fighting for a friendship that you feel is lost? 🙁

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bijouxbroussard · F

Only in terms of keeping the communication open so that they know you are still their friend and have no hard feelings (assuming that’s true). Even if you no longer hang out together regularly, if it’s just the two of you occasionally for coffee. The friendship can survive if you both want that.

Ashly · 26-30, F

@bijouxbroussard that’s what I was hoping to do, not say anything but at least keep that line open, just in case

Thank you for your advice 🥹

ArtieKat · M

@Ashly I'm with @bijouxbroussard. All I'd add is that you should keep this just between you and her: you talked about groups of friends and maybe something has changed in the dynamic which has caused her to distance herself from others in your group. In my experience

closest friends

meet and talk separately - stress to her in a text that you'd like that to be possible.

bijouxbroussard · F

Yes ! It’s important she know she can talk with you discreetly.