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How can I make friends when people are discriminating against me for being short?

Im only 4ft5, I was able to make friends when i was younger but now that im 62, noone wants to make friends with me, not even in church, i live in an apt building and my neighbors never knock on my door to visit but they knock on everyone elses door, i rarely get phone calls from people, when i go to church noone ever asks me if i want to go out to eat with them after church, i wouldve gladly paid for them if they had,even on my birthday and holidays i get stuck by myself, not even my family wants to contact me, not sure why, i lost an identical twin 2 1/2 yrs ago, my brothers wouldnt even go to the funeral thanks to covid, i saw it on zoom but it wasnt the same, my parents have been gone for yrs, i couldve used that time to spend with my brothers, im not working now so i dont really get to see people there, i do live by a senior center and go there for lunch, i see people there and eat lunch with them but they rarely invite me to do anything with them, do people see me as a child cause of my size or do they think i have down syndrome, i heard some people with down syndrome are short, i thought of getting involved with little people of america but dont know if they have any in my area, ive also thought of moving to another apt building so i can make friends instead of always being with people not interested, any suggestions on how to get people to look at me like im their age instead of a little kid. my parents never showed us how to use lipstick and make up so ive never been into that, any suggestions, tired of being by myself all the time, guys have never asked me out on dates so i never got married and had kids, why are people so hateful towards short people? any ideas? tired of it.
Hi sweet Pearl… you are a beautiful human and it’s not your fault if they don’t realize it…..

Having said that, There are a few things that I want to mention to you and I think that we have already talked about them…

- you don’t want to be friends with people who choose their friends based on their height … look for friends who can see your beautiful heart…

- why wait for them to invite you?? Why don’t you invite them for coffee and cake at your place or a cafe .. hold an interesting conversation and find out about what interests them…

- participate in church activities … do volunteer and charity activities … in this way, they will find about your kind character and will be more than glad to become your friend…

- I wish I was living closer to you so that we could do things together …

Much love to you sweet lady … ❤️🥰
@Soossie So well said, Soossie. You are such a blessing here. 🫂
I wish I were living closer to Pearl so I could do things with her, too.

I love being with nice people. And nice has nothing to do with ANY criteria.
@PhoenixPhail

Thank you my friend…. Pearl is a very interesting and nice person and spending time with her would be a joy and she can teach me a lot … 🤗
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
omg. i'm not sure if it's got to do with your height. I think it's something else entirely, what exactly I'm not sure I'm still trying to figure out. The whole phenomenon baffles me. People are the same with me. I've always had people walk right across my door, even if i try to be friendly and social, it's like i don't exist to them, that or they'll make cliques and ignore me, or even be active bullies. At work, it's still the same. It's so strange, I don't know what's wrong with me either. I do have a theory: we're not "influential", we don't "know" people, so we aren't resourceful enough to be their fake "friends". People are selfish. They are looking for people to use. If you do not have a network, more often than not, people will not approach you.

i would've gladly paid for them if they had

This broke my heart. I've been there. Paying for everyone just so they'd hang out with me. Getting them gifts, and chocolates. Nothing works. They never stay. Just eat and leave. People just keep taking and taking and taking, and leave. And laugh at us behind our backs. It's not worth it. People just aren't worth it. I wish you'd realize how lovely you are. That you deserve people soooo good that they unfortunately don't even exist in the same space, because they're so rare to find. You are a beautiful human. Most people are not. They're rotten and ugly to the core. Please don't let them steal your happiness.
ProfessorPlum77 · 70-79, MVIP
Two thoughts:
First of all, if people are avoiding you due to your height, they are very shallow and you are better off without them as friends.
Secondly , you state people never invite you to meals, etc. Have you tried inviting them first/?
megrose · 56-60, F
The reality of this world now is people tend to be busy with their own stuff and often cant see beyond the end of their own nose. I would recommend you look for other people who are alone and invite them for coffee or whatever.
smileylovesgaming · 31-35, F
I don't think it's your height at all
calicuz · 56-60, M
Have you considered living in a community where everyone is closer to your age?
Like one of those senior communities?
calicuz · 56-60, M
@pearllederman

Find a new senior complex.
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@calicuz i applied to one last wk that didnt have a waiting list much and theyre checking my background now, i dont have a criminal background so im just waiting for them to do the paperwork
calicuz · 56-60, M
@pearllederman

Good, hope you can make new friends there.
You may have a belief about being short and people discriminating you for that, that's keeping you perceiving they do. I don't really think people care about your height.
eMortal · M
Do you really think it has to do with your height? It’s not like every one at church wants to date you or something. I know some short Guatemalans, they’re doing just fine.
Emjay · 18-21, F
People hate you because you're short? I'm not buying that reason.
revenant · F
I do not think that would be the reason
Those who discriminate against people for any reason, are doing them a favor. They're showing them who NOT to be around. As uncomfortable as it might be, it's expedient.

Don't have anything to do with people like that, and look for people who accept you as you are. I'm one of them. Okay? 🤗
Your height should be er matter. Those who discriminate you are not the real friends. True friendship is not based on looks it's about what kind of person you are. I have learnt it recently that if you are happy and contented with yourself then it would never matter what people think. 🙃
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being short i dont think has any thing to do with it,,could be the state you live in some states you cant buy friends,,,,and your age,,,,as a person gets older you loose all the friends you had in the past,,,
Adogslife · 61-69, M
Work out.

Go out. No one is coming to your door, nor should they be expected to.

Skip church as a social setting. Try a dating app instead.
Confined · 56-60, M
I like short people. Seems they cuddle very well.
You may want to change your avatar pic. Hard to see your face the way the pic is taken.
The Greed of Sw has stopped anyone from just messaging a person. I wanted to chat.............but won't do it publicly.
StevetheSleeve · 31-35, M
@MaBalzEsHari Please do it publicly. I’m curious to hear what you have to say if any of women you ask to message you actually do.
Lostpoet · M
🤔 Have you tried wearing stilts?
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@Lostpoet no, i dont like them
MrBrownstone · 46-50, M
Still looking for a job?
pearllederman · 61-69, F
@MrBrownstone no, im on social security
Subsumedpat · 36-40, M
At least people on SW like you
Funlov · M
Your ok for a lady at that 👍
Headbutt them in the dick.
SW-User
You've been posting this exact same thing since 2013 on EP

🚩
CestManan · 46-50, F
@SW-User there's a few people on here that have been whining about the same problems since God knows when. One of them finally blocked me, someone I was once friends with and it's kind of a relief because I just got tired of seeing her wine about same thing over and over
SW-User
@CestManan person here has tried to add me on LinkedIn even though I never had a profile there, (just because they had my email) even when I blocked them they still came at me in other formats

 
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