Do you have a moochy friend (or family member)?

I have a (married) friend (who is also a mom). Always in need of money and can’t make ends meet. It’s not that she’s not motivated to work, it’s almost like she’s motivated not to work. Relies on help of others to make her way through life. Can anyone relate?

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Mindful · 56-60, F

Yes, sadly she stole money from me at a restaurant … she took my card and paid for $60. Worth of meal. All I ate were left over chips and one drink. It was very odd. It was her idea. No wonder she begged me to “come on over”. Lol. We have split meals before… meals SHE wanted for her self and her two daughters… she smoke she drinks daily so, I don’t feel sorry for her. Ya know? That’s probably where her extra cash goes. Her bills are smaller than mine. I hope she’s okay, I really do, but stealing money is too smooch for me.

agetheweebeast · 41-45, M

This is the problem with having a very liberal society where everyone's problems are treated as being equally important. Helping and enabling are opposites. Helping very easily becomes enabling when a person receiving such is inclined towards laziness and entitlement. Years ago people were too proud to take help. That was a shame, but at least they were made of tough stuff and usually managed to strive and succeed through adversity, becoming stronger and more confident in themselves as they battled through. Now, we have a lot of snowflakes who think that because they don't like facing the day, being around people, doing work, basically having to be in any environment they haven't specifically chosen, that they have a mental health condition that should be pandered to. It's very sad.

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agetheweebeast · 41-45, M

@NiftyWhite Yes and I am furious. My little girl is kind and sweet to everyone and loved school, the girl tormenting her has made her hateful for the first time AND taken away her faith in myself as her protector and her teachers. It's a disgrace. She bullies other kids in the class too but initially the teacher/school told the parents who complained that it was 6 of 1 half dozen of the other and they had a personality clash. In reality, this little shit was bullying all the nicer children in the class and the parents were all lied to. When we found out that several of us had issues with the same girl things should have changed but they haven't. They are more frightened of chastising a naughty child than they are if several parents complaining.

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

@agetheweebeast in the 80s when I was a kid my parents either put the fear into the bully, or called the parents themselves. They still continued to be (and still are) a$$holes but it got them off my case. Back then bullying wasn’t even a word use in school so my parents took it into their hands.

agetheweebeast · 41-45, M

@NiftyWhite yep, dad's wld threaten dad's etc. Or kids. I was once misidentified as a bully when I was 10 and this old guy (grandfather of two brothers being bullied by one of my classmates with the same first name), had followed me from school and caught me in a secluded spot about a minute from home and told me that bullies get pinned down and force fed dogshit and if I carried on that's what he would do and if I told anyone he would kick me in the privates so hard I wouldn't ever have kids. Imagine if someone did that now lol

PatKirby · M

Solved this one fast long ago. Consider telling three kids you'll give them a hundred bucks if they mow the lawn, clean the house and take out all the trash. But they must share the money with the lazy one who does nothing. How fast do you think the two will say no?

If you do nothing - you get nothing.

samueltyler2 · 80-89, M

We had one, he "borrowed" lots from a group of us. We didn't know how much, and still no idea why. We did squeeze ours out of him, took over 5 years, others, never got their money back.

SW-User

lol... shout out to my dear old ma

MissNoahLenFoxx · 31-35, F

Don’t help her.. is she helping you in any way?

NiftyWhite · 46-50, F

@MissNoahLenFoxx nah. She’s a good friend but doesn’t live very close anymore. At one point she was working but then stopped once the kids were born. She doesn’t wanna accept a job likely bc she wants to be available at all time for the kids but the kids are in school now so ….. idk what she’s thinking.

MissNoahLenFoxx · 31-35, F

@NiftyWhite Exactly you dont know what she's thinking. And who knows what she actually is doing with the money!?- one time or two time "Help", sure! But after that youre enabling that person and they are either avoiding an aspect of their lives or of themselves. They are not changing the thing that will make their life better.

SW-User

Yeah my mom is moochy at times.

Jenny1234 · 51-55, F

I don’t but my husband does.

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Mindful · 56-60, F

Hey you! I saw a small trailer and it made me think of you… it was teeny tiny and I think it’s called a rain drop or something. It was the cutest pull trailer ever! Brand new! I know you have a huge trailer… but your the only dude I know who loves them!@Stereoguy

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