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Personally, I don't think so. I'm cool with a few of my exes because we didn't hate each other or hurt each other, just better off as friends. My ex-husband/son's father and I get along fine for our son.
To me it shows maturity. It's when people complain about their exes that it becomes a red flag for me.
People that make enemies out of old lovers scare me.
To me it shows maturity. It's when people complain about their exes that it becomes a red flag for me.
People that make enemies out of old lovers scare me.
basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
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basilfawlty89 · 36-40, M
@goneNow6565 hell no.
Fluffybull · F
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@Fluffybull agreed
wackidywack · 26-30
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It doesn't have to be.
It can cause jealousy in the new partner, but that doesn't mean it is a red flag. It depends on the emotional charge that remains between the two and what circumstances caused them to part.
Having said that, unresolved issues between them two can be a red flag, yes.
It can cause jealousy in the new partner, but that doesn't mean it is a red flag. It depends on the emotional charge that remains between the two and what circumstances caused them to part.
Having said that, unresolved issues between them two can be a red flag, yes.
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I can’t do it and if my partner was friends with an ex I’d feel uncomfortable. Even if my partner is loyal and respects me , I don’t know if that ex will respect our relationship the same way because they don’t owe anything to me.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
No.
I'm still friends with 3 of my exes. There are absolutely zero romantic feelings left between me and any of them. We were just mature enough to move on and remain civil.
I'm still friends with 3 of my exes. There are absolutely zero romantic feelings left between me and any of them. We were just mature enough to move on and remain civil.
Queendragonfly · 31-35, F
Not if both are 100% over eachother, if it works to become friends that's a really awesome friendship.
dubum · 51-55, M
Unless both still single, could be a good idea to resume a broken love.
Nah, I do it for my kids, they don’t need drama 🙄
i don’t want to be friends with him. we shared something, why should i keep being reminded of that every single time we are around each other? and then see him with someone else? i would have to force myself to get over him, and i am clearly not over it. i wouldn’t date him ever again, but still. @SW-User
@deathfairy yea cause he wants to have a harem lol all guys trying to do this....they think people dont know lol
If you believe that... then you might not be mature enough for an adult relationship.
There are times when people have to be friends with their ex - and attitudes like yours make an already difficult position ten times worse.
There are times when people have to be friends with their ex - and attitudes like yours make an already difficult position ten times worse.
TrashCat · M
True story, three of my exes are dead.
No, I did not murder them. Only 1 of them would I stay friends with because I loved him very much
No, I did not murder them. Only 1 of them would I stay friends with because I loved him very much
luckranger71 · 51-55, M
Unless they’re toxic (narcissist/BPD) this is 100% incorrect
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Idk if you should necessarily be super close with your exes but being able to get along with them is probably a good thing. I'm generally incapable of being around people that I used to be in a relationship with though because I'll be mad forever. I don't talk shit about them or anything but I can't be friends.
BabyLonia · F
No
I have been married for more than 20 years and my ex is a friend .... we were friends before we got together, that friendship was never ruined
I have been married for more than 20 years and my ex is a friend .... we were friends before we got together, that friendship was never ruined
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Sometimes you have to maintain a cordial relationship, like when coparenting children is involved after a marriage ends
ImperialAerosolKidFromEP · 51-55, M
I wouldn't put it that way, but as it happens, I'm not with any of mine
GeniUs · 56-60, M
@Atlotto aah a kindred soul.
I always thought we could at the very least remain civil to each other.
Then after she got what she wanted at the financial settlement I thought she'd calm down.
Then when she got a boyfriend I thought this'll be good all round, turned out he couldn't cope with her.
Then if I just played out the accommodating father she'd eventually settle down.
Nope I was wrong at every turn, she wanted me to remain as a puppet on a string forever. No. No, I paid a significant sum of money to get rid you don't get to keep me too.
I always thought we could at the very least remain civil to each other.
Then after she got what she wanted at the financial settlement I thought she'd calm down.
Then when she got a boyfriend I thought this'll be good all round, turned out he couldn't cope with her.
Then if I just played out the accommodating father she'd eventually settle down.
Nope I was wrong at every turn, she wanted me to remain as a puppet on a string forever. No. No, I paid a significant sum of money to get rid you don't get to keep me too.
Moneyonmymind · 31-35, M
Not really only if you’re in a relationship and you still fool around with them