Why did we let chivalry die? 🤔

It went away because women en-masse have been telling men for years they want to be 'strong and independent' and do not need men in their lives, so men have listened and do not approach women in public, do things for women anymore (including being chilvalrous), or generally engage with women socially because if a woman looks at a man and thinks he's not attractive to her, the dynamic immediately shifts and the man is regarded as a creep, pervert, and potential perpetrator of SA if he makes any attempt to try and 'signal' her or tries to start a conversation to compliment her about something.

If the woman thinks he is attractive, all her standards go out the window for a perceived 9+ 'chad' type.

Then when women don't come across those perceived 'high value' men the women 'cry foul' claiming 'where have all the good men gone' and cite the 'male loneliness epidemic', 'chopped man epidemic', etc. and berate men because they don't meet the conditions of the so-called '666-rule' of dating when any man dares to make an unsolicited approach to try and talk to a woman, or even looks at a woman 'the wrong way' (in her eyes).

Then women bring out the insane list of demands, such as no first date coffee dates, and a whole list of 'checkbox' requirements, plus how a man needs to prove his (primarily financial) worth right from the start by paying for expensive dinner dates, gifts, and outings/experiences almost from day 1.

Add in the 'its all men until its no men' attitude, where all men are considered creeps and perverts and SA perpetrators by collective inference until proven innocent and manipulable.

Combined with weaponised toxic feminism 'transactionalising' dating, and narcissism, and 'gamification' of dating due to online dating sites making selecting people to socialise with like a swiping game of Tinder, etc. based on a 0 to 10 sexual market value score.

Sorry if this offends or shocks you, but you asked, so I've given you my honest assessment of the situation based around my own personal experiences.

Going by most modern day definitions of the word (an honorable and polite way of behaving, especially by men toward women), I don't think chivalry is dead. I've noticed that men who exhibit that trait online though, are very often referred to as "simps".

Chivalry was the code of standards that knights were to live by. That was one of the ways they gained their standings in courts and fealty contracts with the nobility.

So, when knights stopped being a thing, so did chivalry.

As for common decency and respect, I think it was gone long before I was born.

Good manners and consideration across the board would be much more useful today. Traditional chivalry was only afforded to women, and upper-class white women at that.

Men my age never lost it...these younger beta males today?
Too self-absorbed to know how to treat a lady.
But then again, many women today act in ways that will not garner respect.
Modesty used to be a thing too but it is now rare

It died of natural causes and it’s bad juju to try to bring back the dead

I was looking for a dropped handkerchief...

I think we let civility, and manners die.

Are you feminist?

Chivalry became a proxy for patriarchy and "problematic" to woke culture. I still demonstrate chivalry, leaning into courtesy

It died in the late 60s.
All things are possible but it might look weird if it made a comeback.

We created feminism. That killed it