BF is telling me I can't wear my new pants?

@faery basically this ^

Valid approach: I just want you to know I feel X when you wear those.

That let's you know his feelings and gives you the power to make a decision about it. If you decide to stop wearing them it is coming from a place of consideration on your end.

When he says you can't, he's making a decision for you. You don't have to accept his decision, but now the framing is whether you are your own person or his person.

@ViciDraco Exactly 😌 It's okay to feel insecure. It's okay to do things to support someone you care about that feels insecure. It's not okay to give up freedom for someone's insecurities because they say you have to or else. It just encourages more of the same and totally bypasses honest communication.

@Theyitis HA!
that'll show him