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AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
Same. But it's part of life. He'll see you handle it and learn how to manage his own. I think about the world these kiddos got brought into, they're going to need the skills.
I know I passed on some anxiety. Along the way we kinda taught each other stuff. You'll see yourself in him in ways that you'll want to change. It's beautiful.
And like others have said, being honest and open about it is key.
I know I passed on some anxiety. Along the way we kinda taught each other stuff. You'll see yourself in him in ways that you'll want to change. It's beautiful.
And like others have said, being honest and open about it is key.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@AlchemyFox sometimes I feel guilty, because life can be so difficult and the world is such a fucked up place at times. But it can also be beautiful and amazing and I hope he experiences that and gets those things from life.
I'm trying to learn to deal with it, because I really don't. I've recently started therapy but it's been a little chaotic and I'm not sure what I'm going to get from it, other than venting. We'll see, I'm going to continue down this journey of healing probably the rest of my days and hope I can learn to better tame my disorder, for my boy. Right now I'd be like...yeah he's not going to see me deal with it and learn anything positive from my ways 😭😂
I'm trying to learn to deal with it, because I really don't. I've recently started therapy but it's been a little chaotic and I'm not sure what I'm going to get from it, other than venting. We'll see, I'm going to continue down this journey of healing probably the rest of my days and hope I can learn to better tame my disorder, for my boy. Right now I'd be like...yeah he's not going to see me deal with it and learn anything positive from my ways 😭😂
AlchemyFox · 36-40, F
@Notsimilarreally I'm sorry it's kinda shit right now. He will see you and love you no matter what. His precious existence is enough to push you to feel better already. You'll both grow. I promise it gets better. You will do it for him and it will make sense because of him. You are a bad ass chick and a wonderful Mama. You won't want to do anything that hurts him. It becomes clear 🖤
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@AlchemyFox spot on
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
Felt… I’m a very anxious person by nature. I’m always terrified of any of my flaws rubbing off on my children. I don’t want them to be like me.
The fact you are aware of this, is great. I am always very open with my children, I explain to them that I get nervous easily, and I always try to explain my feelings and apologize if I react in ways I would have preferred not to. I also never let my anxiety stop me, to show my children it’s ok to be anxious and move with it. I’ve explained to them that being brave means we are scared of something new but do it anyway
The fact you are aware of this, is great. I am always very open with my children, I explain to them that I get nervous easily, and I always try to explain my feelings and apologize if I react in ways I would have preferred not to. I also never let my anxiety stop me, to show my children it’s ok to be anxious and move with it. I’ve explained to them that being brave means we are scared of something new but do it anyway
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@WaryWitchWandering being aware makes me feel better about it, because it definitely gives me a chance to have more control over how he's subjected to it. Sounds like you have a great open plan going with your kids. I'll have to eventually talk with my son about it, explain to him why I am a little different... For now I'm literally fearing my 4 month is having anxiety because I'm anxious. What the hell. Feels crazy 🤦🏻♀️
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@Notsimilarreally I think most of all he feels his momma’s love
therighttothink50 · 56-60, M
WHEN THE BODY SAYS NO
The Cost of Hidden Stress
https://drgabormate.com/book/when-the-body-says-no/
[When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress
(U.S. Title: When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection)
* Explores the role of the mind-body link in conditions and diseases such as arthritis, cancer, diabetes, heart disease, IBS, and multiple sclerosis
* Draws on medical research and the author’s clinical experience as a family physician
* Shares dozens of enlightening case studies and stories, including those of people such as Lou Gehrig (ALS), Betty Ford (breast cancer), Ronald Reagan (Alzheimer’s), Gilda Radner (ovarian cancer), and Lance Armstrong (testicular cancer)
* Includes The Seven A’s of Healing: principles of healing and the prevention of illness from hidden stress
The Cost of Hidden Stress
https://drgabormate.com/book/when-the-body-says-no/
[When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress
(U.S. Title: When the Body Says No: Exploring the Stress-Disease Connection)
* Explores the role of the mind-body link in conditions and diseases such as arthritis, cancer, diabetes, heart disease, IBS, and multiple sclerosis
* Draws on medical research and the author’s clinical experience as a family physician
* Shares dozens of enlightening case studies and stories, including those of people such as Lou Gehrig (ALS), Betty Ford (breast cancer), Ronald Reagan (Alzheimer’s), Gilda Radner (ovarian cancer), and Lance Armstrong (testicular cancer)
* Includes The Seven A’s of Healing: principles of healing and the prevention of illness from hidden stress
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@therighttothink50 thanks, looks like an interesting read
BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
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BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
@WaryWitchWandering It's hard to give advice when I don't know your situation. Sorry.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@BarbossasHusband that's a good thought, thanks. I am but it definitely isn't so simple as just hand the baby to dad whenever anxiety strikes so I can chill. Not possible
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@Notsimilarreally @BarbossasHusband
It’s hard to walk away from baby, especially if they are fussing a ton. It would tear me apart when I would hand my baby (my son with the illness he had especially) over to someone so I could take a break… I felt so much guilt and anxiety over the fact that I knew what was needed most for them, and that I needed the break to begin with. My daughter was much more calm but even with her , I wanted her to know I was there always.
I still struggle to this day with the idea of my kids possibly feeling I don’t care, or not being there. My daughter started kindergarten end of August, and I was beside myself… I hated dropping her off and seeing her fear/discomfort. A couple times she even cried, and I felt like a horrible mother just driving away and leaving her with “strangers”. Sometimes it is totally necessary to trust others and give space, but it’s hard as an anxious person and a mother to stay logical.
*just want to add… daughter loves school now, and I am just fine haha
It’s hard to walk away from baby, especially if they are fussing a ton. It would tear me apart when I would hand my baby (my son with the illness he had especially) over to someone so I could take a break… I felt so much guilt and anxiety over the fact that I knew what was needed most for them, and that I needed the break to begin with. My daughter was much more calm but even with her , I wanted her to know I was there always.
I still struggle to this day with the idea of my kids possibly feeling I don’t care, or not being there. My daughter started kindergarten end of August, and I was beside myself… I hated dropping her off and seeing her fear/discomfort. A couple times she even cried, and I felt like a horrible mother just driving away and leaving her with “strangers”. Sometimes it is totally necessary to trust others and give space, but it’s hard as an anxious person and a mother to stay logical.
*just want to add… daughter loves school now, and I am just fine haha
bookerdana · M
The group avatar kid is so cute🥳Anyway,Mr Singlepants non professional take: Babies are tough💪! Give them love and affection ,be there for him and he'll be fine☺️
My Mom had three and we are fairly different..I'm sure you are giving him yer best so..worry maybe a bit less,maybe,if only for yourself.
My Grandma had nine,but thats another story
My Mom had three and we are fairly different..I'm sure you are giving him yer best so..worry maybe a bit less,maybe,if only for yourself.
My Grandma had nine,but thats another story
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@bookerdana it is!! But my boy is cuterrr!!!
I am trying, both to give him my best and worry less. But some days are hard. Thanks 😊
I am trying, both to give him my best and worry less. But some days are hard. Thanks 😊
bookerdana · M
@Notsimilarreally I'd put money on it!
GuyWithOpinions · 31-35, M
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@GuyWithOpinions 👌🐸👌
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@Nanori wow great input thanks ☺️
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
therighttothink50 · 56-60, M
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@therighttothink50 well simple things such as a saying can help to calm, it's true!
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
I should point out that EVERYONE experiences anxiety at some point, whether or not you have an anxiety disorder. It's our flight or fight response.
Some anxiety disorders are heritable, but that doesn't guarantee your wee'un will have one and environment also plays a large factor. A nurturing, loving home makes a huge difference.
Some anxiety disorders are heritable, but that doesn't guarantee your wee'un will have one and environment also plays a large factor. A nurturing, loving home makes a huge difference.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@basilfawlty89 so true. Thank you for this tid bit.
iamonfire696 · 41-45, F
I understand why you feel this way. You’re doing what you can to make things better though. You’re a good Mom being so proactive 🩷.
I am typically not anxious, I have my moments. My oldest has anxiety, he’s 16. We have done lots of work sorting through his anxiety and triggers.
I am typically not anxious, I have my moments. My oldest has anxiety, he’s 16. We have done lots of work sorting through his anxiety and triggers.
@iamonfire696 knowing your own triggers is so freakin important. and many can be semi avoidable if you and the people close to you in your life stay vigilant for them.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F