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BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@BarbossasHusband that’s tricky though…
BarbossasHusband · 36-40, M
@WaryWitchWandering It's hard to give advice when I don't know your situation. Sorry.
Notsimilarreally · 31-35, F
@BarbossasHusband that's a good thought, thanks. I am but it definitely isn't so simple as just hand the baby to dad whenever anxiety strikes so I can chill. Not possible
WaryWitchWandering · 36-40, F
@Notsimilarreally @BarbossasHusband
It’s hard to walk away from baby, especially if they are fussing a ton. It would tear me apart when I would hand my baby (my son with the illness he had especially) over to someone so I could take a break… I felt so much guilt and anxiety over the fact that I knew what was needed most for them, and that I needed the break to begin with. My daughter was much more calm but even with her , I wanted her to know I was there always.
I still struggle to this day with the idea of my kids possibly feeling I don’t care, or not being there. My daughter started kindergarten end of August, and I was beside myself… I hated dropping her off and seeing her fear/discomfort. A couple times she even cried, and I felt like a horrible mother just driving away and leaving her with “strangers”. Sometimes it is totally necessary to trust others and give space, but it’s hard as an anxious person and a mother to stay logical.
*just want to add… daughter loves school now, and I am just fine haha
It’s hard to walk away from baby, especially if they are fussing a ton. It would tear me apart when I would hand my baby (my son with the illness he had especially) over to someone so I could take a break… I felt so much guilt and anxiety over the fact that I knew what was needed most for them, and that I needed the break to begin with. My daughter was much more calm but even with her , I wanted her to know I was there always.
I still struggle to this day with the idea of my kids possibly feeling I don’t care, or not being there. My daughter started kindergarten end of August, and I was beside myself… I hated dropping her off and seeing her fear/discomfort. A couple times she even cried, and I felt like a horrible mother just driving away and leaving her with “strangers”. Sometimes it is totally necessary to trust others and give space, but it’s hard as an anxious person and a mother to stay logical.
*just want to add… daughter loves school now, and I am just fine haha