I love my daughter so much 🥹

She saw me crying so she came & told me I was sad. I told her yeah, Dada gets sad sometimes but it's okay. She starts wiping my tears, then forces me to hug her which only made me cry more 😣 how did I get such a loving child 😭

Her mom moves out in a few days & I don't know what the week is gonna look like... or life after this. Obviously we knew this day was coming but I was trying to feel like a family for as long as we could before we weren't under the same roof anymore. Not because I wanna hold on to the relationship but because I know memories are all we'll have left of our life together. I'll still have Naya half the time but I won't get to see her every single day anymore. As a dad who always imagined getting to raise his kid every day, this sucks so much.

I'm determined but I'm still sad. I'm nervous. I'm fucking scared & I know I can build a life & a home for my daughter on my own but life's gonna be hard for a while. It's all just starting to feel more real now. All I know is I do it all for her. She's the reason I believe in myself. Thanks to her, I know it'll all be okay in the end.

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Mamapolo2016 · F

I know you can do it, too. You’re plenty smart enough to avoid the usual traps. You’ll be mad enough at Mom in the coming days to get yourself in trouble. Stay smart. Don’t do it.

Don’t let Naya hear you badmouthing Mom. She needs a solid foundation.

You’ll be in pain. Don’t go for the street-level pain killers. See a doctor and get some support.

Focus on being the great Dad you are. If it ever comes to a custody hearing, the courts notice that a lot. Maybe keep a journal listing every time you see Naya and what you do together.

I am so sorry this has happened to your family.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Mamapolo2016 hopefully I'm not mad at her mom in the coming days. Right now I just feel sad. It's not even romantical I just miss being friends at this point. I want to be be able to joke around still & even go out together to do things with Naya without it being weird or an annoyance.

I wouldn't badmouth her in front of Naya though. My dad never did that about our mom & I appreciate that. I want Naya to respect her mom so I gotta respect her mom too. I'll always say she's a good mom because she is.

I appreciate the advice btw. Maybe I'll do the journal listing just to be safe. I'm already thinking I should keep the receipts to everything I buy her especially like clothes, diapers, & wipes. I don't want it to come off like I'm being petty but I've heard stories & people tell me to keep track of everything I do for her just in case. I wanna have proof that I take care of my daughter

Mamapolo2016 · F

@ChiefJustWalks Hopefully you will never need it.

Straylight · 31-35, F

Just remember what’s important, the both of you being there for your daughter. If you’re in the position to still be friends, that’s probably best.
The future can be scary, but I hold on to the belief that things will work out for you because you deserve to be happy.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Straylight I want to still be friends. We were friends for years before we got together & I think about those days & those conversations all the time because I miss that closeness. I miss confiding in her & her actually helping me instead of staring at me saying she doesn't know what to say. I miss her confiding in me about random everyday stuff instead of acting like I don't care about her day. I wanna still be able to take Naya out to the park or just do something altogether as a family without it being weird. She was my best friend & I want my friend back 😔 together or not

AngelUnforgiven · 51-55, F

Miss Mamapolo2016 gave you the best advice. I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I've been there, so i won't lie and tell you that things will be easy. Keep your head up.

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@AngelUnforgiven thank you. This is the 2nd time that someone has said they won't lie & tell me it'll be easy. I appreciate the realness. I know I'm gonna be tired for a while but I generally always am anyway. I have faith 🙏

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You got this !

Straylight · 31-35, F

Also, she’s talking now?! I feel like you guys just had her!

ChiefJustWalks · 26-30

@Straylight she talks soooooo much 😅 it's so adorable lol her mom even just made her some flash cards the other day & there's probably like a hundred of them. She can already name them all she sings songs like the abc's & twinkle twinkle little star. Her newest stage lately is taking care of her baby doll. She wipes her, changes her diaper, brushes her teeth, tucks her in, & she even makes me hold the doll like I do with her 🤣 she'll be 2 & a half in a few months

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