How can I be the best mum?

You sound like a great mum. The best gift you can give a child is your time. Seriously, that's what they remember. My nephew told me recently that he loves me because I take the time to play with him, whilst all the other adults are busy. That's all he wanted, not game consoles or new bikes, just time and attention from me or someone else. That's what he remembered more than anything. It sounds like you're doing fine. Don't be too critical of yourself. If your child knows they are loved, then you're a successful parent.

In 15 or 20 years he's not going to remember the toys you bought, he's not going to remember the clothes that you bought him he's going to remember that you worked hard to give him everything possible, he's going to remember the times that you spent with him and the memories that he has of your conversations and playing with him and spending time with him and teaching him and helping him to grow and learn. That is being the best mom possible. Too many kids are raised with a lack of love in the lack of proper discipline and attention by their parents. If you give him that, you will be the best mom possible

Your closing question shows that you truly are a mom:


But if you look at the answers, people agree that you are already being a fantastic mom. 😊😊😊

The most precious thing you have IS your time, and spending it with your boy is incredibly important. The people telling you he has to be independent--I don't know wtf they are drinking or thinking, but your closeness will make him feel safe, validated, secure.

Your talking will help his language skills.

You are showing him love as a living, breathing "object lesson" every day.

And never feel bad about getting him what he needs in passing at better prices--clothes and toys are pretty fleeting as they grow so quickly! Spending your money wisely is smart!

He is properly your focus and bonding even more through play, laughter, tickling? holding...he is going to have a very warm & loving base. The evil people don't start this way; the good people do. You are forming a man who will be amazing.

Thank you for being a great mom! 😊😊😊🎆🎆🎈🎉🏆👏👏👏👏

The answer is simple and doesnt take a lot of money. You will put your life on hold for the next 20 years and always be in his life. Just always be there. You wont always be there when they skin their knees or have a tummy ache. Just never let them feel like they are alone when it happens. Do that alone and you will make mother of the year..😷

Get him out of the house for a while, too. It doesn't have to be some huge gesture. Go for a walk with him and let him see things like leaves, especially with them turning and falling at this time of year. Go to the park and play on the swings etc... you'll probably still have to hold him on the equipment at that age, but it could still be fun.

There's also the airport or train station where you can show him trains and planes coming in and going out. With Halloween and Christmas coming, too, these might be good times to get out depending on where you are.

He can see others dressed in their Halloween costumes, or maybe you could dress him up, too, even if you don't go trick or treating, it's a photo op for you - and maybe see a Christmas Parade, or at least the lights being switched on.

Less time on electronics more time with human contact. Like bann all cellphones, tablets, computers and televisions for the next 40 years

The fact that you think about this stuff & you're there means you're already doing a great job in my opinion. There's a lot of parents who only care about themselves

Just be there as much as you can be, love him but don't spoil him. Don't give into social norms of giving him everything except your love.

It sounds like you're doing a great job already. Children grow out of clothes so quickly and hand-me-downs make much more sense than buying new all the time.

Time with your kid. All through their life. Be active in their hobbies, you help create their love of things so you need to help encourage it down the line as well

Oh, geez. Such a difficult question. I mean, not really, so long as what you're typing is accurate and I'm reading it correctly. If such is the case, you're being a wonderful mom. The future is not known, so you won't know what the best choice will be. But you're making great choices now because you're living in the moment. And don't worry about using the TV to help you when you're over stressed. You don't seem to rely on it too much. So keep up the great work.

I think the most important thing is to spend time with them, listen to them, and make them feel wanted.

Read to him every evening before bed. Eventually he'll start to read along with you. One day he'll start reading to you. At some point you'll discuss what's read. Consider ideas and what things mean. Eventually he might read one book and you another, but you'll still be in each other's presence. You'll be paying attention. Showing you care. Showing he's important.

Just think about what you needed as a child and give that to him ❤

Be like a sister. No need to be like a mother teaching or training the child. Just be like a companion and keep attending to your life and other worries.

Don't talk or keep attending to the child constantly. Child is very observant and learns on its own.

Many try to overdo and end up being a slave of the child.

Be the mom you wish you had.

By wanting to be a good mom, means your a good mom. Don't worry about stuff and as far as tv/electronics, school will have him on those eventually anyway. Do your best and be good to yourself. Your child will show you how wonderful you are along the way.

Materialistic things don't matter what matters is what you teach your kid.
Being there for your is all he needs

It sounds like youre doing an amazing job sp far. The more time you do it, the more it adds to you

Just continue doing what you are doing.
Hold, him, hug him, tell him you love him

The best parents I've seen are the ones who always make time for their kids; the worst and I have seen this are the ones who pick up their kids at some point in time in an afternoon take a photo of themselves together stick the photo on SM and talk as if they spent an afternoon together when the reality is they were together for the time it took to take that photo.

you are doing a wonderful job!!