How can I be the best mum?

I have a 1 year old and genuinely curious of how I can be the best mum possible to him.

I try my best to spend time sitting, exploring and talking to him. I know how to make him belly laugh and I have never felt myself lose my temper with him. I do however sometimes allow miss Rachel or Mickey Mouse tv time when I’m overwhelmed (I work full time so balancing being a mum and working is tricky). I also don’t have a lot of money at the moment just with paying off some debt so I buy a lot of his things from Vinted - not sure if this makes me a bit of a crappy mum.

How can I be better?

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Richard65 · M

You sound like a great mum. The best gift you can give a child is your time. Seriously, that's what they remember. My nephew told me recently that he loves me because I take the time to play with him, whilst all the other adults are busy. That's all he wanted, not game consoles or new bikes, just time and attention from me or someone else. That's what he remembered more than anything. It sounds like you're doing fine. Don't be too critical of yourself. If your child knows they are loved, then you're a successful parent.

Needchange1111 · 22-25, F

@Richard65 thank you! Yeah I really enjoy playing with him - so many people tell me I need to encourage him to play independently etc but regardless of anything else - why would I not want to be sat on the floor pretending to be ‘mummy monster’ to make that little man cry of laughter?

Richard65 · M

@Needchange1111 exactly. I don’t know why people say that, why would a mum not want to bond through play? Your child wants you there and your love and attention are exactly what a child needs. I know that because enough children have actually told me. I've got the information right from them. The fact you cared enough to write this post tells me you have it right. Enjoy being mummy monster!