When a child is a good person with kindness and respect for everyone and everything, including themselves.

I believe it is knowing the balance between being a friend and being a figure of authority.

Sometimes a spanking is
Needed

Take the kids to a miniature golf course. Watch Godzilla movies with them.

Polite, but confident children.

the 2 year old speaks 3 langyages and does calculus

Kids with smiles who are inquisitive and polite.

well its hard to find the exact answer but I visited my close neighbor once and her teenage kids were sprawled out on her couch and never showed any embarrassment or hint of discomfort when I (the guest) walked in. I loved that. My mother would have expected me to be up and ready for any company...

So fast forward, I ended up a crazy insecure nervous failure-prone falling down lost-a-holic grownup

and her kids moved from school to college to very nice careers, seemingly without batting an eye, and both now have kids of their own and the gramma (my close neighbor) loves them all and the warmth and connections there are impressive to me. No loneliness, no anguish of betrayal, someone always cares.

So for whatever that's worth, I hope it means something to someone. I think its about FREEDOM and basic respect and no posing about anything...

@RachelC 🤔i have no kids but i think genuine good manners and courtesy and respect a please and thank you when necessary 🤷‍♂but i am old school i guess and brought up with good manners a dying art sadly

A lack of screams...

When other parents have 0 problems with you reacting to their children as well as your own and having an active role with them when they're around

Contentment all round without anything getting smashed.

A red butt!!

Proper discipline when needed, You don't want your children to become like the little entitled brats that are running around wild these days.