Guidance anyone?

If she didn't already tell you, ask her what SHE thinks the ground rules should be, making it clear that won't necessarily mean you accept them. Ask her why she thinks what she thinks.

I'd start there.

My 16 year old daughter has a BF who is 18. It’s been almost 6 months now. When she first told me, I told her I needed to meet him ASAP. Neither one of them has a car so it’s easy to keep track of them. They usually hang out at our house but he’s not welcomed unless one of us (parents) are home. And she’s not allowed to go to his house unless his mom is home. They’re allowed to hang out in the basement with the door open. They’re not allowed in her bedroom period. She’s definitely the boss in the relationship so I just have to trust that she does the right thing otherwise.

My daughter at 16 was not allowed to "date". I would permit more old fashioned courting if I met the young man and if it was in a group or chaperoned. No physical touching was permitted.

I've talked to different parents. some are very strict others are very lax. you have to decide what you are comfortable with and best for daughter

You have to give her some freedom but I think back to when I was 16 and man...makes me wanna say you need to hover over her at all times 😂😂😂

At 16 I was dating a 36 year old. I wished I knew more about consent and how not to get taken advantage of. And how to walk away really. I didn’t have any rules at that age from my parents. But I do think it’s really important she knows about stuff like that more than to have rules. And how to stay safe really.

I'd go along with the asking her what she thinks the rules should be and then you and hubby to go through those points with her, fully explaining your thoughts and fears...and, end of day, it's your property and she should be respectful...

I can't exactly say that I did that when I was that age. My life went another way, but there you go. That's my thoughts..

Sarah 💋

My Da didn’t let me do hardly anything. We lived on a farm, so there wasn’t much opportunity to be fair.

I think you first of all have to get to know the boy she’s going to date with and know he has some morals. You also have to put some strict boundaries on their behaviour especially in the beginning. What you do is up to you but a laisser faire approach will not work.

I agree with mamapolo
Ask her what boundaries and permissions should be and go from there.
Not sure what online articles she’s referring to but I bet the ones that align with her views, are just as biased and slighted

She can date but must tell me who it is with, where they are going, and when she will be home.

Whatever you come up with won't please your daughter. The joys of being a parent! lol.

Set a curfew. Make her tell you exactly where the date will take place. ALWAYS make the date get out of the car and pick her up at the front door so you can see him. Too many young women just go running out the door to get in the car with some stranger her parents have never laid on and don't come back alive or wind up missing.

I can so relate to this! We basically did not allow dating until she was already near the end of high school - so like her senior year. It didn’t hurt that she went to an all-girls high school…. But that didn’t stop them from meeting boys from the boy’s school a mile away somehow. 🤭

Yes. This aspect of parenting seems the toughest.

Chained up in her room until 30

Aww!! The next 5 years are going to be very difficult on both of you.... very important to find a way to stay her best friend as well as her mom...

Kisses her forehead... 😘😘

No rules for a 16 year old. she is grown now, and you have done most education and role modeling. Don't tell her what to do. If you have taught her well she will live by those rules the rest of her life. She has to learn her own lessons. What you can do is believe in her, and say "I know you will make good decisions and choose good friends, and take good care of yourself because you are smart!"

It is nice that you take such an interest and are actually willing to do something to try and look out for her. I hope that she is with someone who respects her and there are young men that do indeed have a lot of respect for the opposite sex, so I hope she is with one of them who isn't all lip service but actually thinks like that of his own accord. Hope it all works out. You sound like a good mum. 🌹

You were once her age.....

Awww... sorry.. I can't umagine the struggle. For real. That's a tough time, boys and girls.. just a no win.. its about endurance. Survive it without wrecking the relationship!

None. I brought my girl up to have self respect and a strong mind. I trusted her to be sensible, and made sure she understood she could talk to me and her dad about anything.
It seemed to work.

It’s your house and your rules. There’s no reason for them to be alone. I would talk to her about some form of birth control. I don’t think you are being too strict.

What is your husband saying about it. You can suggest to your Daughter what she does. But let it be her choice.

You’ve gotta draw that line based upon the amount of trust you have in her, and your relationship.

If she has an Iphone install Life360 on it, so you at least where she is. Helicoptering sure, but necessary.

im a guy so im probably NOT the one to ask ... but the guy MUST meet me & shake my hand ... grinzzzzz

Make sure she is pregnant proof.

My daughter circumvented all the rules… but it was home by 11.

One rule. No dating under my roof!!

Simple.. there is no dating until she is at least 30