[c=#7700B2]no worries, you said what I was thinking but better then what I could ever say, so best answer to you :)[/c]

@PlumBerries I have a feminine son who gets called gay. There are children deciding they're gay at 11 at his school. I said to him whether you are or not doesn't matter. You have loads of time, save your kisses. Work it out when you're older. So he decided to concentrate on his school work and that's what he does. He liked wearing dresses when little but he stopped at 4 when a boy pointed and shouted you're a girl. I didn't put any negative on it but I think that made him realise he's a boy and he didn't want people to think he's a girl. So I have a little bit of first hand experience. Even his dad who is very man's man didn't say anything to him, we just let him be himself and so far that's been ok. If there'd been alot of attention to it then it could of possibly worked out different but we just let put a dress on and didn't really say much to him about it good or bad or even ask him why. I think alot of boys like to put their mums high heels on because of the noise they make and I think it's best to avoid putting emotion and attention into things because the child could become swayed and confused when perhaps they just want to dress up. If I'd given it alot of attention or questioned him about gender he might of got confused - who knows and perhaps he'll want to cross dress when older - who knows - but right now he loves learning his school work and he has alot of male and female friends, he's 13, that's what 13 needs to be not worrying about gender and sexuality even. He'll work it all out along the way but he doesn't need to commit to gay or straight or bi or anything like that at 13. I just said wait a while to him, he's the one who decided it was a good option because he has alot of school work and he wants to get a good career more than he's concerned about if he's gay or not. He probably knows if he's gay by now but still he doesn't need to worry about it yet because there's lots of other stuff he needs to do - like have fun with his friends. I tell all 4 of my children "save your kisses" though because there's plenty of time for that not so much time to be a kid.

[c=#7700B2]you sound like a amazing mum and he is lucky.. kids should just be kids and not have to stress so much about all that stuff. just have fun and as they get older I'm sure it will be more clear on who they are.. [/c]

@Andrew19EightyFive [c=#7700B2]well said[/c]

@PlumBerries I don't agree that anyone should ever change their "gender" actually, and children at such a young age have such inadequate understanding that in such cases it would actually be the adult making the decision for them.

If a child watches a movie where a "superhero" child jumps off of an aircraft in mid-flight with a parachute and decides that he's a "superhero" too, are you going to help him do what he seems to want to do?

[c=#7700B2]why do you care if someone changed their gender? it does not effect you at all does it? and comparing that to a fictional thing like superheroes is wrong imo.. each to their own though I guess[/c]

@EllaDisenchanted [c=#7700B2]that's kind of my thoughts as well when you say when they have full ability to understand the possible dangers and that they can not change back[/c]

[c=#7700B2]such a lovely transition lol[/c]

@PlumBerries [c=#BF0080] I actually completely agree with your stance! I think children should be allowed to grow a little but more and then ahve trhe power and freedom to decide for themeslves when they are more enlkightened and older <3 💕[/c]

[c=#7700B2]yeah exactly. [/c]

@SW-User [c=#7700B2]I agree to a extent.. like everything you said totally, but maybe planning it for the future and in the mean time living as how they feel for a fair while first and wait till they are older for the more drastic options[/c]

I honestly don’t and will never know what a kid like that goes through.

I think what these kids need are good mentors of both kinds. People who have gone through the transition and those who lived without doing it.

[c=#7700B2]I agree with you on that :)[/c]

@ZenKitzune [c=#7700B2]I wouldn't even say a decision for a adult but I think under the age of 16 is not a good idea[/c]

@PlumBerries we're entitled to our own choices as adults, by then it's nobody else's business really.

[c=#7700B2]I agree with you[/c]

@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout I identify as a feline, so I'm a cat now,,,, meow

@topcap2017 With Klinefleter one can use hormone replacement without most of the worst side effects when done with a person that doesn't NEED replacement. That's the thing. Replacement hormone therapy versus transition hormones have very big differences.