Is my mum right or is she just being selfish?

That's not an easy situation at all.
But what's done is done you can't fix the past and need to find a way to move forward.

You are her Biological mother and your own mother should understand the need to work on the relationship you have with your daughter.

Maybe see about going to family counseling with your mom- just your mom at first - and then bringing your daughter along to therapy when you both establish some ground rules.


The thing is this will be a big shock to your daughter and would bring about too many changes all at once putting her emotional and psychological health at risk.
You don't want to uproot her from the only life she's ever known.

Maybe he first step is both you and your mom talking to her and you establishing some relationship with her- getting to know her as a mom and then consider her moving in with you when things are stable enough for that to happen.

Ohhhhh, I babysat for a little girl who was raised by her grandma. She got pregnant at 13 and tried to care for her with her bf but after 6 months she ended up.alone and broke down, could not do it. That little angel knows though who is her grandma and who is her mother and I do believe that this is really important. I am glad that you got to tell her and that it went well 🤗

This is a tough situation. I wonder what your mom has told your daughter about her mother. I know of a similar situation. I think you are going to have to sit down with your mother and hash this out. Seems like you are ready to be a mother and your mother is having a severe time letting your daughter-her granddaughter, not her daughter-go. Would be helpful to get a social worker or mediator involved. And you might have to get a lawyer too. I don't see how she can keep her away from you. But you might want to legally know your rights. Did you sign any custody papers? I suggest counselling for your daughter too. She may need it when the truth is revealed. I wouldn't want her pulled between two people who obviously love her. Good luck to you, girl.

I was on your side until "won't even let me tell her I'm her real mom". There is a lot of careful work to before taking her out of her home she knows.

You are so brave and a strong person :). Try and have a discussion with your mum. I think your mum is attached to your kid and cannot seem to let her go. At the same time, she is probably trying to protect you as she sees you as her child too. However, try to convince and reassure your mum that you've got things going well and that you would want to make things right. At the end of it all, remind your mum that you both are on the same track; and that is giving your kid a safe and secure life. All the best!

I think you, your, mum, and your daughter need to sit down and have a serious discussion about this. You should also discuss this with someone who can give you some legal advice as well. Decide upon the best course for you daughter. I wish you well, this is not going to be easy for any of you.

She's your child, you have every right to take her, pack up her stuff and move her in with you.

You are so brave and a strong person :). Try and have a discussion with your mum. I think your mum is attached to your kid and cannot seem to let her go. At the same time, she is probably trying to protect you as she sees you as her child too. However, try to convince and reassure your mum that you've got things going well and that you would want to make things right. At the end of it all, remind your mum that you both are on the same track; and that is giving your kid a safe and secure life. All the best!

The child has the right to know and contribute to the decision. Your mother did well by helping you but she ll have to be willing to step out once you are ready to parent her yourself. Where is your father in this? And does your mother question your ability? Lot of helpful details isn't mentioned.

Let your daughter decide what's best for her.

Well that's tricky because I am sure your mom see her as her's and it will be very hard for her to give her up. Yes I am sure you mom know's she yours but the bond mother and daughter have which she has and you want well it's hard to give up. As you see you want that bond and your mom does not want to give it up, So go easy on her.

Your mum has raised her as her own and loves her dearly as you do. That's a hard situation.I feel compassion for you.

Focus on the child not yourself. Talk with your mom

legaly she's yours.You may have to go to court

How long have you been off d dope

I'm not saying she's right but I also think she's not being selfish. She probably thinks it's what is best for your child. Sit down, tell her you need to do this and her ongoing support is very much needed in your success
Good luck and well done on getting yourself yo a place where you can take care of your kid x