Is my mum right or is she just being selfish?

The short story is I've got an 8 year old kid (yes I'm 22 you do the maths) and my parents have raised her since she was born. But we always agreed I'd have her back when I could. Well now I have a good job and a lot of savings and a two bedroom flat not far from my parents house but my mum doesn't want me to take her. She puts off the conversation and constantly says "you can have her when she turns 13". She thinks she's funny but seriously I just want her back now. She's my kid and I've worked hard to get to this point just so I can have her and be her mum but my mum won't even let me tell her I'm her real mum. I don't want to wait until she's older and I think it'd be easier for her to adjust now but my mum disagrees and now I don't know what I should do >_<

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majesticsea · 31-35, F

You are so brave and a strong person :). Try and have a discussion with your mum. I think your mum is attached to your kid and cannot seem to let her go. At the same time, she is probably trying to protect you as she sees you as her child too. However, try to convince and reassure your mum that you've got things going well and that you would want to make things right. At the end of it all, remind your mum that you both are on the same track; and that is giving your kid a safe and secure life. All the best!