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courtney0380 · 36-40, F
I think it has to be each parent decides I start letting my girls wear short heals around 11
beckychandler · F
There is the sexualization of children problem and there is the health problem. The former is a giant problem, but I don't have time to get into the horrors of it right now. On the health problem it is my understanding that children's feet do not stop growing until at least the mid-teens – and should thus not be wearing heels – permanent damage can ensue (not an appropriate price for being fashionable in my opinion). At this time I am going through the process as a Mom. My oldest is thirteen. Her school has uniforms and does not allow heels (and the high school she will be attending also has uniforms and does not allow heels). We do not allow heels outside school. At age fifteen I might reevaluate – perhaps two inch heels.
Kathryn05 · 41-45, F
@beckychandler Thank you for the input Becky. My oldest school does not allow heels either as part of it's uniform so that is not an issue. As far as when she is out of school we've agreed she will be allowed some small "kitten" heels and low heeled boots but nothing more for the year
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If she could well balance herself on those heels, I think any age would be appropriate.
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Kathryn05 · 41-45, F
@SW-User I know I was so jealous! She claims the footwork she learns as a dancer helped.
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@Kathryn05 She's a dancer? Now I'm jealous of her! Lol.
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I never asked my parents, I never thought I had to. Lol.
Start her off with small booties, maybe even some short wedges--especially if she's going to be wearing them to school.
Highschool is nothing like the movies... girls don't wear 6 inch stilettos to math class, and if they do... people are definitely talking ill about it.
Start her off with small booties, maybe even some short wedges--especially if she's going to be wearing them to school.
Highschool is nothing like the movies... girls don't wear 6 inch stilettos to math class, and if they do... people are definitely talking ill about it.
Kathryn05 · 41-45, F
@SW-User Oh I know about school. Thankfully there will be no heels at school as she goes to a school with a uniform. Which just means she wants to dress up more after school is over with!
beckychandler · F
@SW-User Unfortunately there are way too many lax and liberal parents like yours were and schools without any semblance of a dress code.
And from my visits to the local government high schools (which as a board member of a school board I do rather frequently for one reason or another) -- there are plenty of girls with heels and some dressed more appropriately for a pole dance than learning algebra.
And from my visits to the local government high schools (which as a board member of a school board I do rather frequently for one reason or another) -- there are plenty of girls with heels and some dressed more appropriately for a pole dance than learning algebra.
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
My mom let me wear heels since I was 8 so...
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@Kathryn05 Ohh mine were 5 inches? I can't remember. I don't wear heels anymore though. Don't like them
Kathryn05 · 41-45, F
@AnonymousJSS Oh haha. I'm sorry but in my mind I get this image of an 8 year old walking around and wobbling all over trying to pretend she is much older
AnonymousJSS · 22-25, F
@Kathryn05 Yeah kinda was me at first. Got used to them fast though. Not too hard
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
Your daughter is slowly becoming a young woman, so her wish is understandable. I think you should grant her wish as long as you pick out her heels (maybe kitten heels or boots with a small heels) and she needs your permission to wear them.
I think that she is old enough to start wearing heels. Perhaps pick out a pair you both agree on. I was 15 when I started wearing heels, if I recall.
Mugin16 · 46-50, M
@TheMagicPill I agree with you regarding age and that both should agree on the shoes.
edge2010 · 61-69, F
Heeled shoes are not gages in her ears or a tattoo. I'd let her. She might decide they're impractical after all.
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@Kathryn05 That's one of the most beautiful things I've heard in weeks! 🤗
Thehobbit · 51-55, M
Well, all my girls are out now, but when they live here they were taught that caring for their body was more important than their looks. Saying that we also let them make their own choices in the teen years. Thankfully each of them chose, after trying heels saw how impractical and dangerous they were
Badseed · 61-69, M
If she were my daughter, I would tell her No. High heels are bad for her feet.
http://www.businessinsider.com/podiatrist-explains-how-high-heels-destroy-feet-jackie-sutera-2017-5
http://www.businessinsider.com/podiatrist-explains-how-high-heels-destroy-feet-jackie-sutera-2017-5
TheProphet · M
I don't see a problem with it if she has been raised well.
AmorFati · M
Not healthy at any age dear!!!
Pop0159 · 61-69, M
I would have a long conversation about why, what it means to her, you, others, boys, .. .. focus on what she wants to say about herself and what others may take it to mean .. .. .. I would then let her start to wear them at appropriate responsible times .. .. ..
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Selah ·
I wore heels every day when i was 15. I turned out ok. Oh wait, no i didnt.
chrisCA · M
When did you start to wear heels?
Goralski · 56-60, M
Never too young ta ruin their feet 😕
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Did you get her heels?
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its not up to parents to give children permission what shoes they can wear at any age
@SW-User Ok so you just missed my point completely. But have a nice day anyway.
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@TheMagicPill Hmmm
beckychandler · F
@SW-User That's crazy, but not an uncommon idea these days. Little Johnny and Jane have the "right" to do anything darn thing they please!