Birthday card update

Thanks for all the advice on this.

So after dinner i took my daughter to her room and gave her the card. She opened it and read it. She took the money and sat it on her night stand.

She looked at the card again got up and put it in her dresser.

Honey

Can we watch a movie

Yeah whatever you want i said.

We watched the movie had popcorn and everyone went to bed.

30 minutes later she comes out holding a bunch of cards.

Mommy didn't write this card. Look. Grandma did. She drops them on the table. I pick up a few and look at them.
See grandma did it. Not mommy.
She couldn't even send me a card for my birthday.

Tears fill her eyes and i hold her tight.

Im sorry honey.

After a while she drys her eyes and smiles

Its ok daddy. I have you. She kisses my cheek and hugs me again.

Goodnight daddy.

Night sweetheart.

So that's how the birthday card issue worked out.

Top | Newest First | Oldest First

cherryxblossom

Aww, bless her heart 💔 Is it possible grandma accidentally signed ‘mom’ or wasn’t in the right frame of mind? Either way, I’m sure she meant well and at least your daughter knows you and her grandmother love her. I’m sorry you had to watch your daughter go through that. It’s horrible watching your child suffer and being unable to take it all away and turn everything into sunshine and rainbows for them. I hope she’ll be able to take the good from it and let the bad go.

View 4 more replies »

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Strictmichael75 she lives in fl. Shes seen my daughter twice once when she was born and once when my boy was born. That's it. She's ways sent her Christmas and birthday cards though.

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

@Cigarguy101 Maybe chat by phone
She must miss her grandchildren
She sends cards

cherryxblossom

@Cigarguy101 Perfectly understandable. I’ve learned worrying about the what-if’s never does us any good though. It’s best to just take things as they come. Just be sure you work hard to secure her confidence in herself. I have a cousin who went through the same growing up. Except her dad was in and out…always promising he’d call or visit and then just forgetting all about her. Her mom never was good at teaching her the important lessons and how to heal through it though….and that’s the hardest part of growing up, ya know? Kids are full of so much uncertainty, doubt, and insecurities. Just be sure you’re guiding her through that positively and she’ll be ok. I’m not saying it won’t hurt and whatnot…but everything in life is all about the perspective we choose to live in. Sounds like you’re working hard on that with her already. :)

Gusman · 61-69, M

That is so sad, but so gorgeous at the same time.
You might have to prepare if her mother does come back to see her.
Your daughter might ask her why no card. Prepare an answer, or come clean with her?

Cigarguy101 · 41-45, M

@Gusman i have no idea why her grandmother sent the card signing it mom. I really don't. I wish she hadn't sent anything. Im sure she meant well. But my daughter saves every card. She knows her writing and her moms.

revenant · F

That is heartwrenching. Poor kid.

Add a comment...