@AliyaNahid just the opposite. You sound like a narcissist yourself to tell her something like that. You are so wrong on this

@megrose I don't think youtube helps than talking the actual therapist or counsellor.

I am just right now trying to stay away in my own room away from her toxic influence on me.

@sahi81 ok. If you have money for a therapist thats great. But if not, information is power. There is a lot of empowering info for whoever wants it.

@sahi81 YouTube is exactly where you should be going to look for right now. I have a horrible narcissist in my family. Just horrible you would not believe and I get comfort from watching these YouTube videos on narcissist and how they act and what you should do. Megrose is exactly right! You will have to be deprogrammed and this will help you because they really help me. Get to know them inside and out and you'll know how to deal with it and untangle your mind.

@LadyGrace i don't think she is a narcissist or too evil... but her behavior is very suffocating and harsh.

@sahi81 I know narcissists inside and out. She is a narcissist. I'm sorry.

@LadyGrace she doesn't force me to live with her... just tries to make choices for me which i find suffocating and effecting me emotionally and mentally. Yes, i should take my well-being seriously and try to find a job as soon as possible.

I lock myself in my own room, she let me be. I don't interact with her much even in same house.

@sahi81 She doesn't have to force you to live with her. You already do so she's happy she's in control. Just the fact that you feel you have to lock yourself in your own room so you can just be yourself, is very telling that she is abusive. I think she will put up a fight if you want to get a job cuz that's something she can't control but we'll see. She'll want to pick it out for you and tell you where to work and everything else and she may even discourage you from doing it, giving any excuse why you shouldn't.

@LadyGrace They are not as strong willed as they project. On a blue moon, I can get into their room, tie them while they are sleeping and then pluck out their teeth one by one with a plier and then, I will know how strong willed they are.

@Jillette she was like that since when i was kid, i wanted one dress for my birthday, she says it's not good, forcefully buys me other. Joined me many hobbies classes at once (karate, staking, maths, swimming, singing, dancing , etc), i was given no time to play like other kids when i was a kid and beat me when I said I don't want to join those because I wasn't interested, forcefully put me into them.

I wanted to join art class, she said it's waste and not good but still payed money for it though because i kept asking her many times.

She was and still is very aggressive and mean when I don't do things or join things she expects me to😭

I hated her behaviour even as a kid. What gives her right to force her wishes on her children. She over-stresses me to do over-work.

I want to get job soon and not be around her anymore.

@sahi81 I am so sorry about this. I think many parents have a problem with understanding that their child has grown up and reached a point where he or she has become an adult, is a completely separate person with different tastes and wants. I went through similar things and I think you have to aim to get away and be more independent as soon as a chance comes up.

@NativePortlander1970 i am trying, i am applying for my masters in other country just to stay away from BS at home. I am also trying to gain different skills to apply for job in future soon. After my masters, my job opporunities might increase.

@sahi81 Good