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My mothers tries to control everything i do and can't take it if i say no or i don't do what she wants and gets mean.

For example : If i say i want to join fitness classes soon she searches yoga classes for me without my permission, then if i say i am not interested in yoga, she can't take it and tries to convince and force me and even gets mean. I wanted other fitness classes since i wasn't into yoga. She says my choices are waste.

She does same with my studies, she forces me to do what she wants me to do instead of helping me or letting me do what i want and can't take it if i can't or won't do what she expects. She doesn't appreciate what i do or what i want to do. And she can't tolerate if i do any mistakes or ask her anything wrong, she thinks/says i am so dumb to be good at anything.

She says she does it for my good, but i feel controlled, pulled back and trapped instead of helped, guided or uplifted.

I really dislike her behavior, she is very controlling and mean even if she provides me with money when i need.
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megrose · 56-60, F
Sounds like she is a narcissist . There are some really good videos on Youtube to help you learn how to deal with and understand these people. You may have to live with her for now so the wiser you become navigating the situation the better it will be for your mental health
sahi81 · 22-25, F
@megrose I don't think youtube helps than talking the actual therapist or counsellor.

I am just right now trying to stay away in my own room away from her toxic influence on me.
megrose · 56-60, F
@sahi81 ok. If you have money for a therapist thats great. But if not, information is power. There is a lot of empowering info for whoever wants it.
@sahi81 YouTube is exactly where you should be going to look for right now. I have a horrible narcissist in my family. Just horrible you would not believe and I get comfort from watching these YouTube videos on narcissist and how they act and what you should do. Megrose is exactly right! You will have to be deprogrammed and this will help you because they really help me. Get to know them inside and out and you'll know how to deal with it and untangle your mind.